Silk Ropes,
Blindfolds, and Ice Cubes – Oh My!
Simple Ways to Spice Things Up for Beginners
...by my friend, Jessica
When I am just beginning
a new relationship, the sex stays relatively “normal”
for awhile. Imagine missionary position, sideways, or even throwing
in a little doggie-style for the sake of variety. The honeymoon
stage of a relationship does not usually require much extra
effort because the adventure is getting to know each other,
inside and out (multiple interpretations welcome!).
But that honeymooning
always comes to an end. Soon we are comfortable with each other,
and that hot hot sizzle in the bedroom can start to fizzle if
we’re not attentive enough to our needs. Entering into
the comfort zone in a relationship does not have to mean sleeping
in sweatpants, watching late night television instead of black
lace panties and grinding into each other to one of many sexy
music playlists we’ve put together. No, this can be the
perfect way to introduce some kinky techniques than can lead
to utmost sexual pleasure. Think of the way a soft breeze can
send ripples across the sea for miles. All it takes is a little…
For newer couples
and beginners, playing with soft tie-ups like silk rope or elastic
is a great way to keep the heat when both parties have gone
as far as they could with their initial hot-streak. I remember
the way my lover’s eyes lit up when I first brought out
the silk rope and asked him if he wanted to try something new.
Our sex-life had the early signs of routine written all over
it, so it was time to move forward. Initially, he simply tied
my hands together above my head, and we proceeded from there.
A necessary reminder:
especially in newer relationships, it is important to be aware
of each other’s boundaries. Once those boundaries (or
lack of boundaries!) have been clearly established, the there
is no telling what new forms of pleasure and fun will surface.
The following time,
rope was used to tie my hands and feet to the bedposts. This
sounds like a fairly popular sexual experience, I know, but
there is plenty reason for its popularity. Surrendering control
to your lover has the physical benefits of enhanced stimulation
(that bottle of lube in the nightstand will likely remain unused
for early experimentation with this activity), the mind’s
desire building and building as the body is restrained, the
lover-in-power teasing with tongue and fingers, the tip of his
penis. This is the making for sex of sparkling-colorful-banging-fireworks-
finale-from-atop-the Eiffel-Tower-on-New-Year’s-Eve caliber,
with its ability to heighten tension. Not to mention, the trust
that can be built between lovers when relinquishing power to
the other is irreplaceable, due to the honesty and communication
required. What a win-win method of taking the relationship to
the next level from a variety of perspectives.
With that said, there
are many things that can be done to supplement the pleasure-enhancing
technique of simply tying up a lover. Bring out the soft blindfold—the
element of surprise should never be underestimated. The body’s
sensation receptors can truly be heightened by the way it feels
to be pleasured at the will of another without seeing it coming.
Recall how much more ticklish we are when someone sneaks up
on us!
Now let’s add
in something a little less common. Try using an ice cube on
your tied-up, blindfolded lover. My experience with ice cubes
rates quite high. I remember his lips cold on my skin, pressed
against my neck. Then I felt it suddenly, the wet ice cube sliding
down between my breasts leaving a cold trail as it melted on
my hot skin. He picked it up and I was paralyzed with excitement,
wondering about his next move. Then, I felt the ice cube in
his fingers along the insides of my thighs. The contrast between
the temperature of his skin and the ice cube on this sensitive
area so suddenly caused my whole body to tremble. He pressed
it gently into the crevice of my labia, back up and up to my
stomach, around my nipples, up my chest and neck and into my
mouth, the last sliver of ice melting in my mouth as his fingers
lingered inside my lower lip. Wow, remembering this so vividly
makes it hard to concentrate…
At this point, I was
so naturally lubricated and aroused that when we arrived at
the point of actual sexual penetration, the build-up inside
of my mind and body greatly enhanced the orgasms and overall
sensation of the sex.
Of course, I highly
recommend trying out these simple sexual experiments. I cannot
help but recall the whole experience in vivid, excruciating
detail (oh, how I want to try this again for the first time!).
All of this is easy, fun, and great for couples and lovers in
all stages, but especially newer couples or couples looking
for an introduction to spicing up their sex life!