How To Give A Good Spanking!

A good erotic spanking has the potential to bring a person to a very heightened and erotically charged state of arousal. As many people know (from memorable experiences), the backside is a major erogenous zone. What is special about the backside, differing from other erogenous areas like the nipples or the back of the neck, is that the nerve endings are covered in a layer of fat, so stimulating them requires more force—like a good over the knee spanking!

Spanking your lover requires a variety of different considerations. It goes without saying that both partners should have complete trust in one another before any kind of spanking, whether it is with the bare hand, or any other tool. And speaking of tools, there are lots of different options to choose from— Paddles, Slappers, Crops, and let’s not forget about our friend (on certain nights, best friend *teehee*), the hand.

A bare hand is a great option, especially for beginners to the world of spanking. Even at the start of a hot and heavy night of naughty erotic role-playing with other props, starting with the hand is always going to get things off to a great start. There are a few different techniques in using your hand to erotically spank your lover. Cupping your hand a little will have a lighter effect on the body while creating a deliciously louder sound. That wonderful smacking sound of a lover’s warm hand on my sensitive backside sends tingles to all the right places. For a more intense erotic spanking sensation, using a flat palm with fingers spread out will sting the most. The rhythm of the slaps is something else to consider. Keeping to a steady rhythm isn’t as effective for me, because I love the anticipation of not knowing exactly when the next slap is coming.

For those longer hot and extremely torrid sessions in the bedroom, it can be nice to have other options besides your hand. With enough spanking that hand will probably get tired or sore after awhile, and there’s no reason to end the night early because of that. Paddles are another sexy prop for spanking. The 2816P Assume The Position Paddle is simple, but it’s one of my favorites. Aside from being made of leather (you know how I crave the feeling of leather against my skin…), it’s round shape is ideal for nice, even spanking. Paddles have the ability to create a harder slap to the ass than a hand, so keep that in mind before swinging too hard. Start with softer spanks, and gradually increase force if your lover starts asking for more. Keeping the tempo slow will heighten sexual arousal by building tension, working up to long, intense orgasm.

Slightly different than the paddle is the slapper. I especially like Leather Slappers , which, because of the leather , has a great snapping sound, in addition to its fairly intense power.). Even though I’m a leather- kind-of-girl, there can never be enough variety, especially where spanking is concerned. I’m always up for trying new things, so when I am especially naughty Master brings out a Wooden Slapper for a good bondage slave training session.

And let’s not forget about the possibilities of spanking with a Crop! This tool is longer than the others (the longer, the better *wink*) so the spanker will have to take greater care in controlling it, considering things like aim and force. Just a flick of the wrist can generate a pretty intense slap. A crop like the 1842C Ass on the Line is perfect because its rubber handle makes for an easy grip, allowing for a bit more control. Spanking with any crop tends to deliver a little extra snap on impact due to their (often) flexible tips. If you ask me, flexibility in the bedroom has never been a bad thing…

One last word of advice on spanking: between several spanks (whether with a hand, or a prop), it can be extremely stimulating to alternate with some firm rubbing and stroking. The mixture of sensations delivered to such an erotic, sensual area will keep the blood flowing at different speeds—and oh how the body will tremble..