Ok,
so everybody likes to get a little kinky sometimes, but what
if you don't have anyone to play with right then? Why not get
a little kinky all by yourself?
Yes, I know what Woody
Allen said, but even with my chances of a date doubled on a
Saturday night, it's still not a guarantee that they'll be any
fun. So here's my Sunday morning solution - I get my little
box of rope, cuffs and gags out and have a little playtime by
myself! Why not? Who knows better than you about what you want
- and let's face it, need! - than you do. So I take matters
into my own hands every once in a while. It's no different than
using a vibrator (don't get me started... hehe!), it's just
a different version of getting what you want and it can be a
lot less hassle than finding someone fun to play with
too.
You have all your
fun and kinky toys all laid out and you've had a glass of wine
(or three, hehe!), so now what?
Well, if you haven't
played bondage games by yourself before, you'll need to know
the rules of this game - yes, there are rules to every good
game - and they're all about safety. Don't get yourself into
something you can't get out of by yourself and you'll have a
good time...heck a great time! If you're truely stuck
in bondage with no hope of escape and no one knows your all
tied up...well, that's not a very good time at all. In fact,
that's just plain dangerous, and not the kind of dangerous I
like either! *giggle*
Safety First!!
Always have a good
pair of scissors close by! ...Did I mention you have to keep
your scissors close by? I like the EMT / Safety Scissors kind.
No matter how wild you may be feeling, keep them within wriggling
distance. The EMT kind have a flat side for getting in between
the skin and the stuff being cut so the skin doesn't wind up
being part of the stuff getting cut!
Always have a back up plan in case of emergency. I think it's
a good idea to have a cordless phone near by, you never know
when you might need to call that trusted friend or lover to
come and help you out if you get a little too carried away and
need a little help out of your predicament. (Hmmmm….might be
a good way to meet some cute fire fighters to rescue you! Rowr,
baby!) I also have a girlfriend I trust that I call to let
her know to hear from me by a certain time or to come over to
see me. I'm always very careful about my safeties, so she hasn't
caught me in self-bondage yet...but I've been considering losing
the keys sometime by "accident"... Hehe!
No suspension! Remember, no one will be there to catch you if
you fall, and that's probably the best thing that could happen
in a trouble situation. It's just not worth it.
No breath play! Self bondage and breath play do not go together.
Again, the things that could go wrong with this are many and
none are good.
Nothing around the neck! I don't even recommend a collar. Remember,
it's better to be safe than sorry.
Always have your set of keys that you can hop, wiggle or hobble
to for all your padlocks, handcuffs, etc. Especially good if
you're using handcuffs without safety releases!
How to do a Hog Tie on Yourself for a Hot
Self-Bondage
Tools: Soft Bondage Rope, Knife and or Scissors
Sit straight up with
your knees bent and your ankles placed together. Take the rope
and start wrapping it around your about three times around your
ankles. Then take the other end of the rope and tie it in a
loop noose.
You can tie the loop
noose like this: 
Start by holding the
rope in your left hand and the end of the rope in your right
hand. Next, form a simple loop and cross the end of the rope
forming an "X". The end part of the rope should form the part
of the X running top-left to bottom-right. Then you hold the
"X" part of the rope with your left hand. Wrap the end of the
rope around behind the loop, above where you are holding the
X. This forms a circle behind the loop. Poke the end of the
rope down through the circle and pull the knot tight. The knot
should stay in place while the loop noose remains adjustable.
Next, lie down on your back, leaning up on your shoulders. This
should feel like a nice stretch but don't go too far to remain
comfortable. Remember, this is supposed to be fun! Once you're
in position with your butt up in the air with your shoulders
firmly and comfortably planted on the ground, bring your wrists
together and insert them into the noose you just made. You should
be able to tighten the noose by tugging on it once your wrists
are inserted into it. The harder you pull on your rope the tighter
it will become, so be careful not to pull too hard all at once.
I've found it's best to work your way into it a little at a
time. It also gives you room to move over onto your stomach.
Once you're set (and make sure your furniture is moved to prevent
unwanted pain!), just roll on over so you are laying on your
stomach. TA-DA! You've gotten yourself in a hogtie! Once you're
finished with your hogtie fun, if you can't get your fingers
inside the loops to loosen them, just wiggle yourself over to
your safety scissors and cut that rope! See, told you they come
in handy! (I've actually had to do this twice, but the rope
I was using was very thick and I tugged it very tight...but
I enjoyed it! hehe!)
Using
"Ice Timers" for Self Bondage
One of the most popular
methods for self bondage is the 'Ice Stocking' method. All you
need is a pair of pantyhose or stockings, a smooth ring and
some ice. For the smooth ring, I like to use the 2"
Steel Hitching Ring w/Base because it can hold a good deal
of weight and I happen to have them handy for bondage play in
general. *giggles* Plus, the weight of the hitching ring
& base makes sure your keys won't accidently get hung-up
(literally!) and leave you in bondage for much longer
than you wanted! To make your own self-bondage timer, fill the
toe section of your pantyhose or stocking with ice. The more
ice you put in, the longer you will be imprisoned. For Self-Bondage
beginners, I recommend going for a short amount of time and
then working your way up to more ice and more time in self-bondage.
In fact, depending on room temperature and how big your ice
is, you may be in for a long wait if you don't check this beforehand.
I'd recommend testing it to see how long a certain number of
ice cubes will last. I like to use about 14 ice cubes for my
self-bondage timer, but I'm kind of a bondage slut... hehe!
Now that you know
how long your timer will last with the number of ice cubes you
put into the stocking, attach your keys to the ring on the Hitching
Base and then run the stocking thigh-first through the ring.
The ring with your keys should now be stuck by the ice in the
stocking. Now, attach your stocking with the keys to somewhere
you won't be able to reach when you are restrained. Remember,
the ice will be melting so make sure that it's above an area
that can get wet. I like to use book shelves or a plant hanger.
Once the ice melts, it releases the key and then you know that
play time is over.
IMPORTANT: Make sure you can get to the keys once they drop!
If you're tied to something, run a little string to the keys
that's close enough for you to grab with your bound hands so
you can reel it in with the little string and use the keys.
They do you no good if they drop into a place you can't get
them and use them! I had a pretty nervous time once and I got
a little scraped up trying to get to my keys, so don't let this
happen to you! Haha!
If you want to challenge yourself or make the self bondage experience
last a little longer, add more ice or even turn down your heat
a bit. The cooler room will make the ice last longer, providing
for a more stimulating and sensory filled play time. Another
way to prolong your self bondage play time is to use double
up the stockings. This will insulate your ice and make the melting
of the self-bondage timer go longer for a longer self-bondage
play experience. I like to put the ice stocking directly over
me so the dripping ice water splashes on my skin! Dripping ice
water can feel just like candle wax! (MMmmmmmmmm...okay,
I've got to focus and finish this first...*wink*)
More
Self-Bondage…Please…
There are so many
different variations to this, but here are just a few of my
self-bondage ideas.
You can put on your
favorite handcuffs or lockable wrist and ankle cuffs and freeze
the key! It's a great and inexpensive time release toy that
you can do over and over! Make sure to have a spare key that
you can get at in case of an emergency though!
You can also tie the
key to a piece of string. Put the string in the freezer with
water, winding up the string in it. Then you put the frozen
key on a string where you would only be able to unlock yourself
once the string thaws out of the ice and drops down to where
you can reach it. The 773T Bondage
Tape is a great way to enjoy self-bondage as well. Just
a wrap it round and round and you're good to go! The bondage
tape also works great for a gag as well as a restraint. The
black bondage tape is one of my favorites, as it has a clean
and sexy fetish look - and best of all, it doesn't pull hairs
when you pull it off like regular sticky tape does. One
of my favorite self-bondage techniques is to make a hood out
of the bondage tape for self bondage. (It's fun to imagine being
a captive and that tape wrapping around my head just sends shivers
down my spine and tingles straight down too! hehe! As always,
make sure you have your scissors nearby and have left your nose
unwrapped for easy breathing!
Spice it UP!
Naturally, just about
everything can be used for self bondage, like gags, cuffs, and
such, but one of the things I like to add is a little something
to tease with. Being tied up is great, but if nothing is happening
for a while while I'm tied up, I get cranky! Haha! So for this,
I'm in love with the 5726A
Forced Orgasm Vibrator Harness and my trusty Magic
Wand. (Don't go anywhere without it! *wink*) For times when
I'm feeling particularly kinky or naughty, I'll add a butt plug
- vibrating if I've been good. Haha! A lover of mine once tied
me up with this harness and my magic wand in place, then plugged
the wand into a timer! It turned on every 5 minutes and ran
for 10 minutes at a time. I don't know if I hate him for that
or love him! After about an hour of that, I was ready to do
anything he wanted! You can do this too - you'll be at your
"captor's" mercy until that ice melts and you're able
to get free.
For imagined training sessions, I might try a plug that's a
bit larger than I'm used to. Now all I have to do is figure
out a way to get cropped, paddled or whipped while I'm in self-bondage,
but I don't have that engineering degree just yet....seems like
a good enough reason to get one though!
Got a great self
bondage idea you'd like to share that I need to try?!
Send it to me at Autumn@sub-shop.com
!