Meet Jacob N

Please tell us a little bit about yourself – How would you describe your everyday vanilla life?

Stereotypical straight vanilla looking mid 30's guy, that always surprises people when I reveal that I'm a kinky guy. Normally spend my free time playing video games.

When did you first realize you were into bondage?

High school, deathly shy so I didn't pursue it, but I've known for what seems like forever.

How you best describe yourself and why? Your choices are: Dominant, Submissive, Switch or Fuzzy Rainbow Unicorn.

Submissive, but capable of switching for my partner if/when needed.

Were lovers accepting of your interest in bondage?

Accepting, yes, but never seemed to truly understand how much I enjoy it.

Please briefly describe your first bondage experience.

When everything went from a theoretical interest to a life long interest. Spent most of it in a head harness ball gag (more please), got tied to a padded saw horse with genital bound and a plug in, then tied spread eagle on a bed, then St Andrews cross, and finally some time in a sling. Learned a lot, but in retrospect, my only interaction was with toys, there was no intercourse. Was also my 1st experience with another man.

What is the most creative safeword you have ever used?

Not the most creative, but I was certainly amused by it the most when selecting it: Oklahoma, from a TV show I saw once.

What do you feel is most important about the experience of bondage?

I think it's more a personal issue, but let your brain get out of the way and enjoy yourself.

What is the best advice you would give to someone just starting out with BDSM?

Patience, patience, patience! It's real life, not porn, not all knots will look perfect, and restraints will likely need to be adjusted. Expect the unexpected, simply so you don't become discouraged if things don't go "perfect."

What is your favorite gear, toy or lingerie item from sub-shop.com and why?

Not any item in particular, I am a huge fan of your color options for leather. Everywhere you go, in store or online, it's black, with the occasional red or natural tan. Not at Autumn's, plenty to choose from, and always seems to be more on the way!