Partner Exploration

    

We can never get to know our bodies too well—and if there are more ways to heighten sexual play of all kinds, I’m all for it, and I bet you are too. Here is a little game I like to call the Sex Physical (some doctor/patient role-playing may be in order *wink*). This game makes it exciting and simple to discover exactly what pleases your lover (and yourself). If you’ve ever had to have the awkward conversation with your lover that goes like this: you know, maybe if you move a little to the left…which can easily kill the mood, then this game is definitely for you. And if not, trust me, Sex Physicals will be great for almost any couple. Pleasure will be maximized if you know exactly the kinds of touches (regarding pressure, pain tolerance, etc.) your bodies respond to. After my lover and I finished a few rounds of Sex Physicals, we were so turned on we couldn’t keep our hands, and mouths, and vibrators, away from each other for hours.

The best way to start is to find some good diagrams of male and female bodies that include in-depth focus on sexual organs (because those are the most important parts!). On the diagram, make a list of the parts—don’t forget to separate things like inner and outer labia, anus within as well as the rim, things like that. With each sensation provided, rank the pleasure 1-5 from low to high sensitivity/pleasure. In other words, five means: don’t stop, don’t stop, more, more, more, but that will be saved for later when the Sex Physical is done. The building excitement will drive you and your lover’s orgasm potential up so high, especially considering they will know the exact ways to touch you that give you the most pleasure.

I think the Sex Physicals are best when the right environment is set. That could mean anything, depending on your preference. For me what it means is turning up the heat from the start by role- playing doctor and patient. This is easy to get into with the diagrams and the charting that will be taking place. It makes the note-taking during the sexual activity less of a distraction and incorporates it as an integral part. The role-playing also encourages extra fun by introducing a power dynamic into the game. The doctor will be saying what’s what, administering the touches on and off as he or she feels fit. You can beg for more all you want, but the doctor will be making the decisions. Patients, get ready for some serious submission!

As far as the actual Sex Physical exam goes, exploration can go as far as you like. My advice is this: the more different sensations used, the better, but it might be best to break it up into different sessions (it will be impossible to resist each other if the game goes on too long!). The best way to do this is to go through with each exterior source over each body part before moving on to the next. So, for instance, begin with the fingers touching each area before moving on to the next device. Keep track of which strokes and pressures feel best to each area. With the clitoris, the doctor should move the hood back and forth. Start softly, and increase pleasure. With the vagina, there are some interesting ways to explore sensation using the PC muscles (you know, the ones you would use to do Kegels). Doctor should put two fingers inside the vagina, then have the patient tighten the PC muscles while the fingers are inside, attempting to hold the fingers in. Doctor should try to pull the fingers out. How does this feel? (I bet I know! *g*) Using this type of method, explore areas like the breast and anus with the fingers as well. Moving this way and that, fast, slow, pressed softer and harder, one finger, two fingers, three fingers, oh my! *teehee*

With the fingers, maybe you’ve started without lube. Doctor should now apply lube and note the different sensations. There are a lot of options to consider. Does Water Based Lube feel different than silicone based lube?

Before you know it, the fingers have done all they can, and it’s time to open the toy chest. With all the toys I have, you probably understand what I mean about breaking the Sex Physical up into sessions! It would take days! *giggle* Dildos and vibrators come in many varieties, start with whatever you like. The 5335P 7th Heaven Platinum G-Spot Jelly Vibe will likely feel different than a non-jelly vibrator, like the silky smooth 9387P Waterproof Silicone Rabbit Pearl. Or with a dildo like the glass 6387P Icicles Sapphire Spiral, there are all kinds of options for sensation—because glass toys can be heated up or cooled to test pleasure according to temperature! It’s best to have doctor test out each of these differing sensations for a truly thorough, stimulating exam. After all, we need to get the perfect information, so if doctor wants to take it to the next level, doctor will be able to deliver. Maximized pleasure and orgasm? After putting so much time taken into discovery, patient will be begging, but maybe won’t even have to, doctor’s been worked up so much, the sexual tension will be ready to explode. *wink*

And we haven’t even gotten to exploration with anal toys yet! That may be a whole session on its own! From beaded glass anal toys (try the 5367E Glacial Glass 7 1/4th Beaded Wand) in hot and cold, to vibrating silicone styles like the 300P Silicone P.E. Vibe Spiral, doctor and patient will have a lot of work to do. Make sure you use Lube for anal exploration!

There are plenty more options I haven’t even gotten into (ice cubes, feathers, and Hot Wax Play can be incorporated, for instance). Let your imagination continue guiding you through the joys of the Sex Physical. Communicating with this kind of specificity what feels like unbearable pleasure (and what doesn’t) is going to enhance the sexual relationship you have with your lover in so many ways—you’ll get to know each other inside and out. Yes, pun intended! *g*