Playing With Restraints

    

As I’m sure many of you are familiar with, surrendering control to your lover usually ends up in super- stimulating and erotic sessions in the bedroom. That playful teasing combined with a sense of danger and vulnerability on both a physical and mental level are what give using bondage and restraints such a wide appeal. And with all the restraining options out there, exploring each and every one of those options gives us the opportunity to have fun in new ways all the time! *g*

Restraints come in all shapes and sizes and in lots of forms, both obvious and subtle. For instance, many people probably don’t realize that simply holding down your partner with your hands and the weight of your body qualifies as a restraint. And you thought you were new to bondage! *wink* And then of course there are cuffs, ropes, hogties, spreader bars, gags, straightjackets, you name it. Within each of the types of bondage there is tons of variety, too, with their materials consisting of anything from fur to leather to the strictest steel.

If you’re in the beginning stages of playing with restraints, before I get into specifics and ideas, I want to emphasize safety first. A high level of trust is an essential part of using restraints. Whether you’re the submissive being bound or the Dom/me doing the binding, if there isn’t trust, then how can either of you proceed comfortably in order to create that intense pleasure that bondage can provide? Giving each other a sense of how far you’re willing to go will also keep the experience from going to uninvited places. Coming up with a Safeword is a common safety measure that Dom/mes and subs adhere to. Now that we have that established, on to the good stuff! Beginner’s to restraining often find themselves most comfortable with less strict items. An example of a perfect starter restraint is the 8745BD Basic Buckling Starter Cuffs –they are leatherette (which is soft and feels a lot less intense than say, steel) and easy to wear, so it makes getting used to the idea and sensation of being bound a piece of cake. Once you’ve both gotten used to the less-extreme bondage, you can start focusing all those sultry fantasies that led you to restraints in the first place, and begin experimenting. *g*

Intermediates in the world of restraints—when your desires start bubbling over the top and the heat really starts to rise so that you must take it further, here’s where the restraining devices get even more erotic and exciting. *g* Cuffs are great, but maybe they’re not going to cut it if you’re looking to get into some stricter restraints. What comes to mind (and later, lots more will be cumming too…*wink*) are gags, body-harnesses, and hogties! The 8733SM Pre-Tied Rope Body Harness is perfect if you’re looking for some more serious restraining action! Hogties, like the 8796BD Helplessly Hogtied Collar, Wrist and Ankle Set. Couple one of those with a gag (so many to choose from in my Gag Section of the store), and you’re bound to end up screaming in ecstasy!

And if you’re a seasoned veteran in bondage and restraining and you’re really looking to get tied up to the maximum degree, think about using strict arm and leg bindings, steel spreader bars, and straightjackets. I’ve had my share of experience in these strictest of the strict restraining devices, and there’s nothing like it. To be completely vulnerable to Master brings the most tantalizing sensations that combine intense pleasure and oh-so-wonderful pain that is no longer only the stuff of dreams and fantasies! The 6724A Spandex Straightjacket is super-sexy and it will keep you snug and comfortable, all while keeping you in unyielding submission! While you’re at it, try out a 8743SM 19” Metal Spreader Bar w/ Locking Ankle Cuffs and there really will be no room to wiggle! *g*

Different degrees of bondage come in handy even for the advanced users of restraints. Breaking out those steel cuffs instead of using the spreader bar and arm-bindings some nights for certain scenes and role-playing games will always keep it interesting and exciting! And once you’ve started to fill up your closet with all these new devices, it won’t be long until all sorts of creative ways to use them will enter start sneaking into your bedroom sessions. *g*