Taking the First Steps into Bondage

    

Choosing to practice a bit of bondage with your partner is a big step for many couples. Because of the risks that people think are involved, a lot of otherwise interested people are turned off by the stereotype of whips and chains. Fear not, excited bedroom explorers! Starting bondage with your partner is easy as tying a knot.

The most important thing to have when beginning any sort of sexual escapade is complete consent from all parties involved. There’s a reason why the word sensual makes up over half of the word consensual! Once all parties are in agreement as to what is going on, and a safe word has been established, you can start to play. Respecting each other’s boundaries during play time will let everyone relax and enjoy the experience. And when people have fun, they’re much more likely to want to play again… and again!

 
Start Out Slow
If you’re with a partner who is new to the world of bondage, take it slow! You’re not going for a quickie, so take the time to make it enjoyable for everyone. If your partner is still slowly warming up to the idea of being tied down, consider simply using your hands for restraint at first. Many people are more receptive to being blindfolded as opposed to tied down, so consider finding a Blindfold that will work to your partner’s liking. Once he or she is comfortable with being blindfolded, you can start bringing more toys into your play dates.

Fit To Be Tied
If you’re ready to move on to the next level of play with your partner, start looking at Soft Bondage restraints. Switching out a soft tie at the wrists where your hands once held your lover allows your fingers to do the walking while they stay restrained under you. Branching out a bit further will allow you some extra areas for exploration, all while pleasing your partner.

Accessories Make The Outfit
Once you and your partner have started to become more comfortable with bondage, you can start accessorizing. Adding the blindfold you were using before to the restraints you’re using now can give you a bit more oomph to your play dates. A Collar can give the tug that you’re looking for in the middle of play time, especially if you choose a style with a leash, ball gag, or nipple clamps attached.

If you want a bit of visual stimulation, consider adding a sexy pair of “Fuck Me” Shoes to your toy chest. Whoever is wearing them will be on their toes to dodge the lusty looks of their lover!

Sensual Sensations
Once your partner is kitted out to his or her pleasure, you can add some seductive Sensory Bonuses. Whether they prefer the teasing tickle from the tip of a whip or the firm slap of a paddle against pink flesh, exploring the different sensations from new toys can make play time that much more fun.

If you or your partner finds they prefer a bit of a pinch, don’t neglect the nipples! Nipple Toys run the range from simple clamps to suction cups to tiny vibrating weights. If they feel great on your nipples, try them on other places on your body! You may find somewhere that works for you that you never would have thought of trying before.

Take It Up A Notch
If you and your partner are enjoying your bonding through bondage, you can explore your passions and branch out into other types of Bondage play. Whether you decide to build your own restraints, or turn your guest room into your very own dungeon, you can keep the good times coming for months to come.

 
Communication Is Key
Whether you and your partner stop at the softest silk ties or keep going to find pleasure in each other’s pain, be sure to keep the lines of communication open and flowing. Learn your lover’s likes and dislikes, and let him or her know yours. Besides, if you stop communicating your wants and desires, how will your partner know what is going to turn your crank?

Bondage at any level can be an enjoyable, exciting experience to share with your lover. Be sure to fully express what you want before you start, and set boundaries on which you both agree – including a safe word if things take a bad turn. Most importantly, have fun! Sex is one of the best parts of the human experience, and when you find someone with whom you really click, exploring each other is an amazing experience.