HUGE Clearance Deals on Now! Plus, get a FREE Gift with EVERY Order and FREE Shipping on US orders over $95 !

Bondage & Sexuality


September 19, 2014

bondage and fetish checklist › bondage checklist › Bondage sex secrets › Bondage Sexuality › bondage sexuality blog › female bondage blog › Fetish Checklist › How to do bondage › How to do bondage better › how to get a girl into bondage › how to get someone into bondage › How to get your boyfriend into bondage › how to get your girlfriend into bondage › how to get your lover into bondage › how to have hot sex as a parent › New bondage ideas › Sex Advice › Sexual bondage experience › Sub-Shop › sub-shop.com › subshop › what men want from sex › what women want in bed ›


Must Do Bondage & Fetish Checklist for Partners

Bondage & Fetish Activities Experience

 

A frequent request brought this wonderful Bondage & Fetish Checklist back.  I encourage you to print it out and share it with your partner.  Make one for you and one for them....then compare. You might find some wonderful new "activities" to do tonight...and tomorrow..and the next day...and the next day...  

 

Yes/No Interest Level
0-5

Rate your interest level accordingly:

Interest Level 1-5
• Level 1: Not at all interested
• Level 2: Not my thing, but if you like it, I could be open to it
• Level 3: Kind of interested in it
• Level 4: Interested in it
• Level 5: Yes! Yes! Yes!

 

Abrasion
Adult Movies (watching)
Adult Movies (making)
Age play
Anal sex
Anal plugs (small)
Anal plugs (large)
Anal plug (public, under clothes)
Anal Plug (vibrating)
Armbinders
Asphyxiation
Blindfolds
Being serviced (sexual)
Being bitten
Biting
Bondage Tape
Boot worship
Bondage (light)
Bondage (heavy)
Bondage (multi-day)
Bondage (public, under clothing)
Bondage Erotic (reading)
Bondage Erotica (writing)
Breast/chest bondage
Breast whipping
Crops / Caning
Chastity belts
Chastity Cages (for him)
Clothespins
Cock worship
Cock Rings
Collars (worn in private)
Collars (worn in public)
Corsets (wearing)
Cross Dressing
Cuffs (leather)
Cuffs (metal)
Double penetration
Electro Stimulation / Tens Unit
Electro Stimulation / Dildos
Electro Stimulation / Plugs
Enforced chastity
Exhibitionism
Eye contact restrictions
Face slapping
Fantasy abandonment
Fantasy role play
Fisting
Floggers
Following orders
Foot worship
Forced Feminization
Forced homosexuality
Forced masturbation
Forced Orgasms
Forced servitude
Full head hoods
Gags (cloth)
Gags (rubber)
Gags (tape)
Gags (ball)
Gates of Hell (male)
Genital sex
Glass Sex Toys
Hair pulling
Hand jobs (giving)
Hand jobs (receiving)
Handcuffs
Harems (serving w/other subs)
Harnessing (leather)
Harnessing (rope)
Having food chosen for you
Having clothing chosen for you
Head (giving fellatio)
Head (receiving fellatio)
High heel worship
Hot wax
Humiliation
Ice cubes
Kidnapping Fantasy
Kneeling
Latex Clothing
Latex Bondage
Leather clothing
Leather restraints
Manacles & Steel Irons
Massage (giving)
Massage (receiving)
Medical scenes
Modeling for erotic photos
Mouth bits
Nipple clamps
Nipple weights
Over-the-knee spanking
Orgasm denial
Orgasm control
Outdoor scenes
Outdoor sex
Phone sex
Penis Pumps (stimulators)
Pony Play Slave
Posture Collars
Prostate Stimulation
Pussy/cock whipping
Pussy worship
Restrictive rules on behavior
Riding crops
Rubber/latex clothing
Rope body harness
Rope for bondage play
Saran wrapping
Scratching - getting
Scratching - giving
Sensory deprivation
Serving
Serving as furniture
Serving as a maid
Serving orally (sexual)
Serving other doms (supervised)
Serving other doms (unsupervised)
Sexual deprivation (short term)
Sexual deprivation (long term)
Sex Swing
Shaving (body hair)
Shaving (head hair)
Sleep deprivation
Sleepsacks
Slutty clothing (private)
Slutty clothing (public)
Spanking
Spandex clothing
Speech restrictions (when, what)
Speculums (Anal)
Speculums (vaginal)
Spreader bars
Standing in corner
Stocks
Straight jackets
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on)
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by)
Strap-on-dildos (wearing)
Strapping (full body beating)
Suspension (upright)
Suspension (inverted)
Suspension (horizontal)
Swallowing semen
Swapping (with one other couple)
Swinging (multiple couples)
Tattooing
Teasing
Tickling
Uniforms
Including others
Vaginal dildo
Verbal humiliation
Vibrator on genitals
Voyeurism (watching others)
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others)
Water torture
Wearing symbolic jewelry
Whipping (soft)
Whipping (hard)
Wooden paddles



So, now that you have all these wonderful ideas, what will you do with them?!  I can think of a few things...and they all start with O.  As in my Oh my God, OH Don't Stop, OHHH...OHHH... You can fill in the rest.  However, if you gag them..it will be more like..MMHHHHHPHH... The choice is yours.  What will you do with this new super power?  Will you use it for Good or Evil?  The choice is up to you!

 

PS - And please ask your Co-Workers to stop sending me emails about you whistling at your desk.  You are happy. I get it.  But the 5th time of Blow My Whistle is a bit much....why not change it to It's a Small World?  Everybody loves that...

Continue Reading >

Autumn Tells The Truth About Sex Myths

 

 

Anyone who has ever picked up a magazine....has read about a Sex Myth.  Cosmopolitan wants to tell us what you are really thinking and how to decode the "secret guy" language, Maxim wants to tell you how to get laid more, and Good Housekeeping makes you never want to have sex again....(or wait...maybe that is just me)   .

 

But I, Autumn LeFleur am going to debunk those Sexy Myths right now.....

 

She is holding out sex with you on purpose.


Okay guys, I know it must feel like this but I assure you chances are she is not withholding sex from you as a weapon of man destruction. (link to weapons of man destruction article – another Autumn original……hhaahahahah!) If you are not having sex, and you have initiated it and she is not responsive there is a reason why. She thinks you are being an Asshat about something. And it could be anything at all, so it is best to talk to her in a non-combatitive way about it. Rub her shoulders, give her a kiss on the cheek (okay guys, the one that is on her face, you need to get her in the mood first) and tell her how pretty she looks. Lie if you have to. We don’t care. We just need to hear it, even if we just got home from the gym, our hair is a mess and we feel like we are going to throw up.


She is not interested in having sex with you because something is going on emotionally. Find out what it is and give her the reassurance she needs. That is really what it’s all about for her right now and once she is feeling better, get ready for SEXY TIME!

Bondage is only for Kinky or Weird People


Did you know that the average person into bondage is….EVERYBODY. No, seriously. I’m not joking. Do you know how normal you really are? I would know. I am literally a nice girl. I’ve had six (not a typo SIX) lovers my entire life and I never would imagine kissing on the first date as it would seem to forward. Fast forward several very nice dates later, and I’m fishing for the handcuffs….and a few years later….a warehouse full of them. Nice people like bondage. No really, they do! Just look at you. You are visiting my site and sub-shop is all about loving bondage in a healthy, fun and sexy way that brings people closer together. So, if you are here, chances are you are a pretty decent person.


Who do I know who is into bondage: Special Education Teachers, Pastors (that’s right, I said it and it’s true, I know several that have a very happy and healthy relationship with their partner and love bondage, you would be surprised at the things I know…), Firemen, Secretaries, (that joke kind of writes itself, don’t you think with the movie and all…), Travel Agents, Doctors, Lawyers, Your Neighbor. Seriously, I firmly believe that there are more people than you would ever expect or suspect into bondage sex. So, get over it, and enjoy. You are completely normal! And probably happier than most people because you get better aftershocks. (you’re welcome!)

Penis Size Matters


Nope! Not at all. How great your ass looks in those jeans or watching you do pull ups matters to us. Can you fix something without your shirt on? Thank you. I speak for all women when I say we would like that VERY MUCH. Guys tend to think that penis size really matters to girls because they obsess over it, they talk about it, they joke about it, they insult with it. But not us.

We really don’t care how big your penis is, as long as you use it. For most women, making out and getting “there” is the best part. The clitoris, G-spot and entrance to the vagina are her going to be her “OH MY GOD” spots. Also, please keep in mind that most women don’t orgasm by penetration alone, clitoral stimulation will lead her to biggest orgasms during intercourse. If she is not climaxing, it might be because she needs that extra bit of stimulation which a good vibrator can absolutely help with. It has nothing to do with your penis size, it’s all about how you use your entire body during sex.

Only Women Fake Orgasms


Ladies are you in for a shock or what? Men fake orgasms too! Why do men fake orgasms you say? For the same reasons you do. They are tired, distracted, not feeling good, etc. They still want to be with you sexually it’s well….they really want to be done now. According to an unofficial pole (oh. I meant Poll….*smile*) of my girlfriends and many wonderful gay and straight guy friends, it’s actually often because either a part of their body hurts from fucking you too hard, or they are overheated.


How do you stop fake orgasms? Well, there are a few different things you can try. Put a large fan in your room. Chances are you already have one if you have a guy in your life because they are always hot while we are always cold. ( I know what you are thinking….God has a sick sense of humor…and please turn down the air conditioning or up if you are a guy) Men tend to get overheated during sex. When you think about it, when you do it right it’s a lot of exercise. So, he may have pulled a muscle or just be overheated in general. Do not let it get to your ego. Be happy that your man cares enough to let you know he enjoys it, even if that “exact” orgasm is not happening right now. Fellas, the same thing goes for you. If she is faking it, or you suspect she is, it’s not because she is not enjoying it, it just may take a little more time to get her there. Women are like crockpots, you kind of have to let us simmer. Stroke the heat all day, and see what happens…*FIREWORKS*…. And that goes for both men and women.

 

And now that you have all this information what will you do with it?  Will you use your power for good or for evil.....*wink*  Perhaps Both! *giggles*

 

 

Continue Reading >