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April 07, 2014



Strap-On Sex FAQ's

The Ins & Outs of Strap On Sex

Strap-on Sex isn’t just for lesbians or breakfast anymore! Lots of couples are not also exploring this new sexual adventure. With so many different styles and sizes of strap ons out on the market today, it’s a wonderful time to add a strap-on (or two!) to your bag of tricks for some extra treats.

As with any great outfit, accessories can make or break it! The first step to having great strap on sex is to find the right dildo for your strap on. You will first want to decide how big of a dildo you want. Dildos come in a variety of sizes, shapes and styles. Experiment with how deep your partner likes penetration and consider thickness (listed as the diameter of the dildo in my descriptions) as your guide for what type of dildo you will want to use. You can also shop together to choose the one (or ones) that look good to you. Create a Wish List of all the fun ones that look best to you both. For best results, I recommend using several different dildo styles and sizes. Smaller is typically best for starters. You can always work your way up and graduating to a new dildo is fun too. Have a little celebration and bring out the new dong!

Some dildos curve to help hit the G-spot during penetration. These are great but they also tend to be harder to use in a strap on and generally come in larger lengths and diameters which might not be best for beginners or anal use. They are, however, a great treat to work your way up to. Get yourself several sizes for a great weekend (or week!). You will also want to choose which material will work best in your strap-on and feel best for the receiver. Some dildos are made of silicone which retains body heat and is easy to clean completely because it’s completely non-porous, meaning there are no tiny holes in the surface. You can even put silicone toys in the dishwasher! Less expensive models are made of rubber and jelly-like synthetics. If you are a first-timer, you may want to start with a less expensive rubber model. I would not recommend glass for your first dildo because it is not flexible. But again, it’s a great treat to work your way up to it once you feel comfortable with your strap-on! Glass is also great for cleaning and can be completely sterilized, even in a dishwasher. Chill or warm your glass dildo for a whole new experience.

Take time to play with your new toy before putting it to good use. Put on your harness with the dildo and get used to how it feels before getting to the good stuff with your partner. Always remember to play safe and use a condom with your strap on, especially if you are switching who gets to have the wear it. Have them help you in the harness and make it part of the fun foreplay! The tighter the straps, the easier your strap-on will be to use. You don’t want to have to stop in the middle to tighten your strap-on or have it flop off entirely! For this reason, I recommend going with a leather strap-on such my popular #1765B Who’s Your Bitch Harness but if you are just starting out or short on funds, the less expensive versions like my #306N Pink Latex Slim Vibrating Slip-on Tool will also work really well for you. Look for styles with two individual straps that go under the butt to attach in the back. These are more stable for more vigorous use and don’t chafe like the single strap-through-the-crotch styles. When using the single strap through the crotch styles, I’d suggest wearing panties to avoid chafing through those sensitive areas.

Styles range from nylon straps that cinch or attach with plastic snap buckles to latex and varying grades of leather. Naturally, the cheaper ones aren’t as good as the more expensive versions, but you have to decide what you’ll be using it for, how often you’ll use it and of course, personal style. I have some great basic strap-on harnesses and strap-on sets, but you may prefer a pretty pink set, blue latex, red leather, invisibly clear, models with dildos on the inside or whatever. There are even styles for a guy to use that fit over an erection or help him thrust passionately again if he’s got erectile dysfuntion. I’ve got a lot of choices, so be sure to look through them all. You’ll probably find more than one that you want, but that’s what a Wish List is for anyway!

With all this new equipment on you, don’t forget the fun of foreplay! Make sure to keep it hot and it will be a night you won’t forget. Stroke your strap on and for extra fun, you can even have them kiss it. Cock worship isn’t just for guys to get anymore! As with any type of penetration, you want your lover aroused and ready for it. You will definitely want to use a lubricant even if he or she seems lubricated. Slippery and wet is much more enjoyable for both of you. Go slow and easy in the beginning and work your way up. In the missionary position, angle your dildo upwards, not back towards the spine and let your partner guide you in how fast and deep to go. Always remember to clean your toys like my #3152P Legend Sex Toy Cleaner or my #5130P Playgirl Signature Toy Cleaner after use! An infection isn’t any fun so always use anti-bacterial cleanser to keep all your toys clean and ready for years of hot sex!


Autumn LeFleur
Autumn LeFleur

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