If you’re looking for a wonderful way to add excitement to your sex life or really rev up your blow jobs, stimulating the prostate is a little known, but wonderful way to do it!
The prostate is much like a woman’s g-spot and it’s just as powerful when it comes to producing an orgasm. The prostate is found inside the anal canal and it’s primary function is to aid in reproduction. It does this by secreting a fluid into semen before ejaculation occurs, helping with sperm mobility and prolonging the life of the sperm once it leaves the penis. That’s not all it can do, though, as you’ll find out.
Before anal play, it can be helpful for your partner to use the bathroom before you begin. I would also recommend a bit of freshening up with a warm, moist cloth run over the anal area. It’s always a good idea to inspect your fingernails before any type of anal (or vaginal) play! Make sure your fingernails are smooth with no rough or jagged edges which could bring the evening to an early close. Relaxation is also important, minimizing or preventing the possibility of tearing the lining of the rectum, and setting the stage for pleasure. Set the mood with sensual music, candles, an erotic massage and other relaxing and arousing activities.
When you are both ready, you can begin massaging your partner’s prostate externally. Using your index and middle fingertips, you can touch, rub, stroke, or press his perineum. The perineum is often called the outer male G-spot and is located in the area of skin from underneath his testicles to his anus. Try various sensations and pressures to find out what your partner likes. Open communication is always the strongest key to any good sexual relationship. This is the beginning of the massage, so encourage your partner to communicate with you about what feels good to him and let him know that you are enjoying being with him and touching him.
As your partner begins to enjoy the sensations, using water-based lube like our Moist Anal Lube, gradually insert your finger(s) into his anus. You may both need to experiment with various positions that allow for easy access. In the meantime, you can begin with him lying on his back. Insert your finger(s) about an inch or so, and when your partner is comfortable, move your finger(s) in an upward motion along the wall of the rectal lining that faces the front of his body. Try to locate a round bulb of tissue — this is the prostate. Once you locate this area, move your finger(s) in a «come here» motion, as if you were asking someone to move closer to you so that you could whisper a secret. Use your finger pad on the tip of your finger to massage the prostate, and be careful not to let your nails scratch the delicate lining. Another great option is to use any one of the myriad of prostate stimulators available in different shapes, sizes and materials, vibrating or not. Just the fact that this many toys are made for prostate stimulation should give you an indication of how powerful an orgasm with prostate stimulation can be! In addition, for the nervous male, this shows that not only does this work, but millions of other men are doing it too. If they weren’t there wouldn’t be this many companies making this many types, sizes and shapes of prostate stimulators!
These toys already have the correct shape for reaching the prostate and, as mentioned, can vibrate for an extra added zing! No matter what you use, ask him what feels good and how he wants to be touched. While you are touching your partner in this way, you can ask if he wants more or less pressure, or slower or faster strokes. You can touch his penis, testicles, or perineum simultaneously. Some men might like oral sex or kissing at the same time, too.
If your partner indeed does find pleasure from this experience, it might set him over the edge if you rhythmically or irregularly press on his prostate gland before or during ejaculation. It is even possible for men to orgasm through prostate stimulation alone. Hopefully, you’ll hit the jackpot with this rectal rub. At a minimum, you will be learning together, trusting each other, and having a new experience.
For more great tips on how to send your lover over the edge and learn more about the male g-spot, I highly recommend reading Anal Pleasure & Health or the Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Men.