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April 14, 2014



Jayme Dalton talks about self-bondage

Ok, so everybody likes to get a little kinky sometimes, but what if you don’t have anyone to play with right then? Why not get a little kinky all by yourself?

Yes, I know what Woody Allen said, but even with my chances of a date doubled on a Saturday night, it’s still not a guarantee that they’ll be any fun. So here’s my Sunday morning solution — I get my little box of rope, cuffs and gags out and have a little playtime by myself! Why not? Who knows better than you about what you want — and let’s face it, need! — than you do. So I take matters into my own hands every once in a while. It’s no different than using a vibrator (don’t get me started… hehe!), it’s just a different version of getting what you want and it can be a lot less hassle than finding someone fun to play with too.

You have all your fun and kinky toys all laid out and you’ve had a glass of wine (or three, hehe!), so now what?

Well, if you haven’t played bondage games by yourself before, you’ll need to know the rules of this game — yes, there are rules to every good game — and they’re all about safety. Don’t get yourself into something you can’t get out of by yourself and you’ll have a good time…heck a great time! If you’re truely stuck in bondage with no hope of escape and no one knows your all tied up…well, that’s not a very good time at all. In fact, that’s just plain dangerous, and not the kind of dangerous I like either! *giggle*

Safety First!

Always have a good pair of scissors close by! …Did I mention you have to keep your scissors close by? I like the EMT / Safety Scissors kind. No matter how wild you may be feeling, keep them within wriggling distance. The EMT kind have a flat side for getting in between the skin and the stuff being cut so the skin doesn’t wind up being part of the stuff getting cut!
Always have a back up plan in case of emergency. I think it’s a good idea to have a cordless phone near by, you never know when you might need to call that trusted friend or lover to come and help you out if you get a little too carried away and need a little help out of your predicament. (Hmmmm….might be a good way to meet some cute fire fighters to rescue you! Rowr, baby!) I also have a girlfriend I trust that I call to let her know to hear from me by a certain time or to come over to see me. I’m always very careful about my safeties, so she hasn’t caught me in self-bondage yet…but I’ve been considering losing the keys sometime by «accident»… Hehe!
No suspension! Remember, no one will be there to catch you if you fall, and that’s probably the best thing that could happen in a trouble situation. It’s just not worth it.
No breath play! Self bondage and breath play do not go together. Again, the things that could go wrong with this are many and none are good.
Nothing around the neck! I don’t even recommend a collar. Remember, it’s better to be safe than sorry.
Always have your set of keys that you can hop, wiggle or hobble to for all your padlocks, handcuffs, etc. Especially good if you’re using handcuffs without safety releases!

How to do a Hog Tie on Yourself for a Hot Self-Bondage
Tools: Soft Bondage Rope, Knife and or Scissors

Sit straight up with your knees bent and your ankles placed together. Take the rope and start wrapping it around your about three times around your ankles. Then take the other end of the rope and tie it in a loop noose.

You can tie the loop noose like this:

Start by holding the rope in your left hand and the end of the rope in your right hand. Next, form a simple loop and cross the end of the rope forming an «X». The end part of the rope should form the part of the X running top-left to bottom-right. Then you hold the «X» part of the rope with your left hand. Wrap the end of the rope around behind the loop, above where you are holding the X. This forms a circle behind the loop. Poke the end of the rope down through the circle and pull the knot tight. The knot should stay in place while the loop noose remains adjustable.

Next, lie down on your back, leaning up on your shoulders. This should feel like a nice stretch but don’t go too far to remain comfortable. Remember, this is supposed to be fun! Once you’re in position with your butt up in the air with your shoulders firmly and comfortably planted on the ground, bring your wrists together and insert them into the noose you just made. You should be able to tighten the noose by tugging on it once your wrists are inserted into it. The harder you pull on your rope the tighter it will become, so be careful not to pull too hard all at once. I’ve found it’s best to work your way into it a little at a time. It also gives you room to move over onto your stomach. Once you’re set (and make sure your furniture is moved to prevent unwanted pain!), just roll on over so you are laying on your stomach. TA-DA! You’ve gotten yourself in a hogtie! Once you’re finished with your hogtie fun, if you can’t get your fingers inside the loops to loosen them, just wiggle yourself over to your safety scissors and cut that rope! See, told you they come in handy! (I’ve actually had to do this twice, but the rope I was using was very thick and I tugged it very tight…but I enjoyed it! hehe!)

Using «Ice Timers» for Self Bondage

One of the most popular methods for self bondage is the 'Ice Stocking' method. All you need is a pair of pantyhose or stockings, a smooth ring and some ice. For the smooth ring, I like to use the 2" Steel Hitching Ring w/Base because it can hold a good deal of weight and I happen to have them handy for bondage play in general. *giggles* Plus, the weight of the hitching ring & base makes sure your keys won’t accidently get hung-up (literally!) and leave you in bondage for much longer than you wanted! To make your own self-bondage timer, fill the toe section of your pantyhose or stocking with ice. The more ice you put in, the longer you will be imprisoned. For Self-Bondage beginners, I recommend going for a short amount of time and then working your way up to more ice and more time in self-bondage. In fact, depending on room temperature and how big your ice is, you may be in for a long wait if you don’t check this beforehand. I’d recommend testing it to see how long a certain number of ice cubes will last. I like to use about 14 ice cubes for my self-bondage timer, but I’m kind of a bondage slut… hehe!

Now that you know how long your timer will last with the number of ice cubes you put into the stocking, attach your keys to the ring on the Hitching Base and then run the stocking thigh-first through the ring. The ring with your keys should now be stuck by the ice in the stocking. Now, attach your stocking with the keys to somewhere you won’t be able to reach when you are restrained. Remember, the ice will be melting so make sure that it’s above an area that can get wet. I like to use book shelves or a plant hanger. Once the ice melts, it releases the key and then you know that play time is over.
IMPORTANT: Make sure you can get to the keys once they drop! If you’re tied to something, run a little string to the keys that’s close enough for you to grab with your bound hands so you can reel it in with the little string and use the keys. They do you no good if they drop into a place you can’t get them and use them! I had a pretty nervous time once and I got a little scraped up trying to get to my keys, so don’t let this happen to you! Haha!

If you want to challenge yourself or make the self bondage experience last a little longer, add more ice or even turn down your heat a bit. The cooler room will make the ice last longer, providing for a more stimulating and sensory filled play time. Another way to prolong your self bondage play time is to use double up the stockings. This will insulate your ice and make the melting of the self-bondage timer go longer for a longer self-bondage play experience. I like to put the ice stocking directly over me so the dripping ice water splashes on my skin! Dripping ice water can feel just like candle wax! (MMmmmmmmmm…okay, I’ve got to focus and finish this first…*wink*)

More Self-Bondage… Please…

There are so many different variations to this, but here are just a few of my self-bondage ideas.

You can put on your favorite handcuffs or lockable wrist and ankle cuffs and freeze the key! It’s a great and inexpensive time release toy that you can do over and over! Make sure to have a spare key that you can get at in case of an emergency though!

You can also tie the key to a piece of string. Put the string in the freezer with water, winding up the string in it. Then you put the frozen key on a string where you would only be able to unlock yourself once the string thaws out of the ice and drops down to where you can reach it. The 773T Bondage Tape is a great way to enjoy self-bondage as well. Just a wrap it round and round and you’re good to go! The bondage tape also works great for a gag as well as a restraint. The black bondage tape is one of my favorites, as it has a clean and sexy fetish look — and best of all, it doesn’t pull hairs when you pull it off like regular sticky tape does. One of my favorite self-bondage techniques is to make a hood out of the bondage tape for self bondage. (It’s fun to imagine being a captive and that tape wrapping around my head just sends shivers down my spine and tingles straight down too! hehe! As always, make sure you have your scissors nearby and have left your nose unwrapped for easy breathing!

Spice it UP!

Naturally, just about everything can be used for self bondage, like gags, cuffs, and such, but one of the things I like to add is a little something to tease with. Being tied up is great, but if nothing is happening for a while I’m tied up, I get cranky! Haha! So for this, I’m in love with the 5726A Forced Orgasm Vibrator Harness and my trusty Magic Wand. (Don’t go anywhere without it! *wink*) For times when I’m feeling particularly kinky or naughty, I’ll add a butt plug — vibrating if I’ve been good. Haha! A lover of mine once tied me up with this harness and my magic wand in place, then plugged the wand into a timer! It turned on every 5 minutes and ran for 10 minutes at a time. I don’t know if I hate him for that or love him! After about an hour of that, I was ready to do anything he wanted! You can do this too — you’ll be at your «captor’s» mercy until that ice melts and you’re able to get free.
For imagined training sessions, I might try a plug that’s a bit larger than I’m used to. Now all I have to do is figure out a way to get cropped, paddled or whipped while I’m in self-bondage, but I don’t have that engineering degree just yet….seems like a good enough reason to get one though!

Got a great self bondage idea you’d like to share that I need to try?! Send it to me!

Time to get a little wrapped up!


Autumn LeFleur
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