The Facts About Anal Play & Sex
From a biological perspective, there is so much potential for pleasure in anal play because of all those nerve endings clusters around the anus, the exact same kind that are found around our genitals that make us feel oh-so-good. From my personal perspective, it really does feel amazing! *g* Sometimes anal sex gets a bad rap, being known as a painful process. Or, it is overlooked because there’s another hole so close by that doesn’t take much thought or effort to get in to. I’m here to tell you that you’ll truly be missing out if you choose to skip those highly stimulating sensations of anal play—give it a try!Go on, I dare you! But first, here are some of my little tips and tricks to ensure the process goes smoothly.
Practice Makes Perfect.Before jumping right into anal sex, there are lots of toys on the market meant specifically for anal play that will ready area for bigger things. *teehee* Starting small is the best way to go. Then, you can work your way up to some larger toys at your own pace. A mini butt plug is perfect for beginners, small and smooth. Once you have gained some experience with anal sensation, no doubt you’ll be looking to step it up a notch, or maybe a little more than that…*wink*The options for larger toys are endless, lucky for us! Using glass plugs, like a pacifier plug, will give a more intense sensation because glass is a hard material that will press harder against you. (I bet you like where this is going…*g*) That kind of intensity can really hit the spot,whenever you’re ready for it! All of this exploration will make the anal musclesmore comfortable in general, which will be great for anal sex.
Lubrication.Rumors of anal play being painful are usually due to improper preparation. Use lots of lube, both for anal sex and play with anal toys! There isn’t the kind of natural lubrication produced in the anus that is produced by the vagina, so extra lubrication is a MUST, and then the pleasure will be all yours. You can use any kind you like, but keep a few things in mind. Water-based lubes, like a moist gel lubricant, are silky smooth, but don’t last as long as silicone based lubes, so for anal sex, you will may have to reapply a couple times. If you use a silicone based lube, you won’t have to worry about reapplying it because it will last—plus, it stays right where you put it.
Breathe, Relax, Go Slow, Communicate.It will feel amazing, trust me, but most likely, you will need a minute to adjust to the sensation.So go slow at first, let your partner know how it feels, and don’t forget to let them know when you’re ready for more. *g*With all that practice you’ve done with toys, your muscles should be fairly relaxed, so just breathe and let the penis slide in. A great anal sex position for beginners is lying on your side spooning, because it will maintain your relaxation, which is important to start. In no time, you’ll be wanting it harder and faster, wondering why you’d never tried this before! *g*
Did Somebody Say Orgasm??? YES! YES!YES!Women and men both have the ability to orgasm from anal play. For men, stimulating the prostate, the male-equivalent of the g-spot, can give them mind-blowing orgasms. (And there are tons of toys right here designed to do just that!) For women, the space between her rectum and vagina is so thin that if thrust into the right place, a penis (or any toy that’s big enough, for that matter *g*)will hit the g-spot and leave her screaming for more! The easiest way to do this would be to get on all fours, doggie-style, because it will provide the perfect angle. Ready for some anal fun yet? After all this talk, I know I am…*wink*