Quick Guide to Choosing a BDSM Collar Style
First, let’s be clear of the collar that we are talking about. We are referring to the collar which is a device that may be made of various materials worn by a person around the neck, generally, to indicate their submissive or slave status in a BDSM relationship.
As choosing the collar you want for yourself is already tricky, how much more complicated would choosing a collar for your partner gets? There are plenty of styles out there depending on what you (or your partner, more specifically!) like or prefer. Most of the different styles out there have several rings for you to attach whatever you want, like restraints or a leash. So let’s take a look at the different styles of collars there are.
The locking slave collar is a collar that locks with a padlock or pins. These locks can be either at the front or the back. The main thing about them is they lock, but there are different styles and designs so you can find them in several materials and colors. The main idea behind them is for the dominant partner to carry the keys so the submissive cannot take the collar off. As you can see, the keys are very important, so if you want to get one of these, be careful in hiding the keys.
Another cool collar style is the message collar. These types of collars are super fun because they carry several messages or phrases. Usually they come in several symbolic messages like ‘pet’ or ‘slave’ for instance. The most popular models are made of leather and have a word or message attached made of rhinestones. If you want to give your partner a super special collar as a gift, some stores even offer the added benefit of creating a personalized message, which makes for a very distinctive look.
The wolf collar on the other hand has some rocking looks. They are the typical black leather collar with spikes around it. They don’t only look awesome but they can also offer you some sharp (ha ha, get it? Because there are spikes…Sorry, had to do it wink*) pain.
The plate slave collar is typically worn for men in the BDSM community, but sometimes women use it too. It is called a plate collar because the throat part looks like a plate and it is meant to protect the wearer. Particularly, most plate collars wearers traditionally don’t have an owner.
If what you want is to keep your partner close, then you need to get a collar with a leash. This is the best way to keep your submissive on a tight leash, literally. Although you can use them in pet play perfectly well, they are also commonly used in training because the leash makes up for a great way to train them or stop them when they need a good pull of the leash.
The Gorean slave collar on the other hand is great for those who want to show a great level of commitment: 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. These collars consist of a thin metal ring with a lock that can only be removed with the key the dominant has. They are very restrictive, so you probably need to think twice before you commit!
The posture collar is kind of like a corset for the neck because it makes the submissive stand completely straight without bending the neck. As it completely restricts any neck movement, it is probably not the best choice for beginners.
Similarly, the slave collar with nose hooks consists of a collar with hooks that go on the nose; so they completely restrict the neck and the head. There are also collars with clamps that connect to the nipples. As these can get very restrictive and would need time to get used to, it is advised that you shouldn’t jump straight into these kinds of collars. You will need more time, practice, and experience before you can be comfortable in these.
Now, have you decided on which collar is for you or for your partner? There are many things to be considered but the choice is yours. Once you decide and have your preference, you may opt to have a Collaring Ceremony. Yes there is such a thing!
