3 Steps to Sexual Switching as Beginners

BDSM offers various possibilities to those who drop their inhibitions and let their sexual energy materialize in incredible scenes, full of mystery and excitement. It is common for a BDSM scene to have a dominant partner and a submissive partner (sometimes also called a slave) but it doesn’t mean these roles have to be fulfilled by the same partners every time they get into this kind of sexual play. Actually, it becomes more exciting for both partners involved in the sexual encounter to switch sides and see how they feel in different positions. If you have been a dominant all your life, you might want to try to be a submissive at least once, maybe you will like it more than you expected. The same idea goes for submissive partners who should try at least to be in charge and see where the journey takes them. But how to make the switch and not create any damage to what appears to be a great balance point both of you have already reached in your sexual life? Regardless of what direction you want to make the switch, there are certain aspects you need to take into consideration.

1. Activate your empathy level

Being empathetic is very helpful when you want to switch roles with your partner. You have to understand what they feel and what they expect from you in order to anticipate if you would do just as good in their shows. Being sensitive to your partner especially when in your sexual life is a high quality. It improves the entire sexual performance to create new levels of excitement for both of you. If empathy doesn’t come natural to you, don’t worry, you can cultivate this quality by talking with your partner and getting all the answers you might need from them when it comes to how they feel and how they react to certain sexual aspects of your relationship. This will give you a great starting point and make you feel more confident when you make the switch.

2. Try the toys you used before on your partner

Sexual toys come in a wide variety and using them to create pleasure or pain for your partner is not the only way to use them. If you are a dominant and you enjoy spanking your submissive, try switching roles and enjoy some spanking yourself. Chances are if you like it, you are ready for more complex BDSM activities such as different styles of bondage and other stimulating devices. Once you get familiar with the toys you like to use on your partner you will also get an insight into how it feels to be in their shoes.

3. Adapt your personality

Being a dominant or a submissive partner is most often a matter of personality and making the switch is even harder when you have a strong personality. You might find it hard to bend according to different situations. Try acting at first and practice doing the things you would expect your partner to do so you don’t just switch roles but you also set an example for future BDSM scenes when your partner will get their regular role back. Talk with your partner and share your feelings as well as experience while you try their role and learn from each other as you are trying new things together.

If you develop the ability to switch roles with your partner during your BDSM experiences, your relationship will have a lot to gain at all levels. You will understand each other a lot better and you will be able to relate with each other in different situations. The level of trust between the two of you will increase significantly too. You will also discover new aspects of your sexual identity and learn how to play with them to have a great sexual life and reach more intense orgasms.