Sex is clearly a huge part of our lives, it is known. It brings us a lot of pleasure but as women also know, there are also some problems related to sex that can come with it. A healthy sex life is key in a normal healthy life, so we are obviously interested in getting us in top shape, right? So let’s have a look to the most common sexual problems women encounter and how to solve them:
- Like the Sahara: It is a common believe only women in a menopausal stage experience some vaginal dryness but women from all ages can also experience it. Dryness can lead to pain during sex, especially a burning sensation during the act… and sex should be something enjoyable, right? Lubrication is the solution in most cases but if the problem is an ongoing one or you have started to experience it suddenly, estrogen levels can be the problem. Consult with your doctor to find the best solution; he may prescribe you dermal patches, oral medication or vaginal suppositories or creams.
- After baby: Pregnancy and having a baby changes your life… and your body. I’m sure you know that wink*. One of the most common trouble women find after birth is that things usually are not that tight afterwards. It can happen because the pelvic muscles are not that strong, so exercising them can help. And I’m not talking about weights, wink*. Doing Kegel exercises or squeezing and releasing your muscles, as you would as if you were stopping urination, can help a lot.
- Too fast! Some women complain their partner finishes too quickly and that is very valid complaint. Try to discuss the subject with them calmly and delicately, so no feelings get hurt. Also, encourage foreplay! Foreplay is as important if not more, than actual coitus. If you guys try it and after a while find that your man still can’t take that long, the best will be for you two to consult with a doctor to see what is going on.
- Sooo bored: No one expects sex to be incredibly exciting and a mind blowing experience each and every time you do it, but if you find yourself feeling bored about your sex life it may be time to switch things up. You can spice it up by talking about your fantasies and unfulfilled desires and bringing them to life (amazing opportunity!). You can also buy some sexy lingerie or bring a sex toy to the mix, wink*.
- The back door: Anal sex can be one of those diving things in a relationship. Some men may even put a lot of pressure on their partners for them to try it, but it’s all up to you. If you want to give it a try, great. Make sure to do it right and prepare for it; don’t forget the lube and some anal toys to prepare. Now, if you are positive that you don’t want to try it because it doesn’t interest you, then be clear about it. In a relationship it’s important for both parties to respect each other and their boundaries.
- Zero drive: Some women find themselves with zero libido. Now, not being in the mood is normal every once and then, but if you constantly find yourself with a lack of sex drive, there may be an underlying problem. Ask yourself what is making you feel like that and what is going on in your life. The sooner you find what’s going on, the faster you will resume the fun wink*.
- No time: Some partners can say there’s no time to have really good sex. And that is a lie; good sex can come in very short amounts of time. You just need to prioritize! It doesn’t mean you will have 5-hour sex marathons every night, but learn to identify what is really taking you up most of your time; some times we spend so much time in things we don’t realize (hello Facebook and TV). Think about where and how you can incorporate intimate moments with your partner, it may be a quickie when the kids are in bed or first thing in the morning or sending each other sexy texts and pictures during the day. The time can always be found to have a pleasurable and intimate moment.