How to Punish Your Lover in an Erotic Way
Punishing your slave might sound easy but it actually takes some experience until you reach the level of punishment both of you can enjoy. Yes, your slave has to get some pleasure from it as well. Remember it is not just a matter of disciplining them. It is also a BDSM scene on its own so it can be a very kinky and intense encounter to lead both of you to intense orgasms and sexual satisfaction, provided, it is done right.
Punishing your slave means disciplining and stimulating them at the same time to feed their sexual desires. Remember a slave finds enjoyment in being controlled, even to an extreme level, by their dominant. They like to obey. Likewise, be punished when they are not so obedient. They also like to please their dominant over everything because they find personal satisfaction in it. So it will come natural to them to enjoy part of any punishment method you choose to apply. The intensity of your actions is the key to a good punishment. The more you know your slave, the more you will be able to tell what they can endure and what not and you will have the ability to apply the best punishment to suit them and satisfy you completely.
Punishing your slave can be done in several ways. It is up to you to decide the method to use as long as both of you enjoy it. For instance, you can punish your slave by making them wear an outfit they don’t like. On the other hand, stimulate them more intensively than they are comfortable with. The method you choose to punish your slave may or may not be sexually related. You could do something as part of a sexual scene. Then again, making them do chores around the house doesn’t have any sexual meaning.
Another good method of punishment is to use sexually stimulating toys or devices on your slave. You can use dildos, vibrators or more specific stimulators like nipple clamps. Using these devices will lead your slave to intense sexual stimulation for sure. But when they get close enough to have an amazing orgasm, you can deny them the pleasure or you can force them to have multiple orgasms until they are exhausted and beg you to stop. This is the moment when the punishment process is complete. Other popular methods of punishment are spanking or whipping your slave until they learn their lesson. Spanking can be done with your hands or by using certain paddles. You can even choose to match the paddle or whip to their outfit or yours for a better visual stimulation of the sexual scene. Like any other punishment method, spanking and whipping are about intensity. You can do it softly or you can increase the intensity to make them feel what a good punishment is like so they know better next time when they disobey their master or mistress.
Whatever method you choose, do not exaggerate it. Punishments are not daily rituals and should only be done on occasion than other BDSM scenes. Remember you are not in an abusive relationship, yours is a sexual one. Therefore, everything has to have a sexual aspect to it. Make sure to talk with your partner first and see where they stand before the punishment session starts so you know how to behave and how far to push your methods.
It is also important to have a safety word because if things get out of hands during the punishment session, your slave should have the chance to stop it or change the course of events. In case the safety word is used, reduce the intensity a little so they will enjoy it. Punishing your slave can generate a lot of sexual satisfaction. Even so, the main rules of BDSM — safe, sane and consensual, should always be respected.
