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Is Orgasm Denial Effective in Female Domination?

One of the keys in a successful relationship that involves female domination is training. The dominant woman -- often called a Mistress or Dominatrix-- will train the submissive male to behave according to her specifications. There are several methods that are used in this training and one of the most common is orgasm denial.

The actual idea of orgasm denial might sound cruel-- but it is not intended as a method of torture to the man. It is simply a tool for enhancing the training process. But is it effective?

The simple answer is that yes it is one of the most effective training methods used in BDSM relationships where the female is the dominant person. What people do not often understand, however, is why it is effective and what the purpose is for utilizing this method. That is what I'm going to explain.

It's no secret that orgasms feel good, right? I mean if I could go through my day feeling the high of orgasm I most certainly would! But for men, it works a bit differently. Women can have orgasms throughout the day and those feel good feelings will rebuild and then they can carry on with what they are doing.

For men, there is an increase in dopamine leading up to the orgasm. This is what builds his excitement and prepares him for the pleasure. He will feel excited, happy and generally really good. Dopamine does that to a person and is often the reason many people end up on hard drugs.

When a man reaches orgasm, his burst of feel good changes. His dopamine levels drop drastically and he becomes almost lethargic. Imagine being extremely happy and within a few seconds your mood crashes and you feel nothing. It is a drastic change for the male.

Now there are a multitude of theories on how this is processed. Some say that the man will then look for another feel good method and turn to other ways to build that dopamine including other women. While that may be true, it is not the primary reason for using orgasm denial as a method of training.

The main goal of orgasm denial is that the training is done during that high and euphoric feeling. It is to withhold that release and extreme high and offer it as a reward to the man. It is to train him that he will receive that final pleasure only from his dom and only when he has done as he is supposed to.

Once orgasm is achieved and a man is sent into the down state of mind, it will be more difficult to train him than during the high. And that is why many doms use orgasm denial during the training process in BDSM relationships with a submissive male. It helps to make the entire training process more effective. But there are keys to keep in mind when using this method.

First, you have to ensure that arousal takes place. But you also must use caution. While some will take advantage of teasing and touching with denial being the end result, sometimes this can lead to orgasm on its own. Especially if denial has been in place for some time. One of the most effective ways to create arousal and deny orgasm is to utilize a chastity device that prevents orgasm. Just make sure that the device fits properly and that it is used correctly.

It may seem like a harsh way to complete training, but a submissive male will often be more than willing to use this method. He will find pleasure in the process and most definitely in the end result.