Please tell us a little bit about yourself – How would you describe your everyday vanilla life?
I am a computer geek and a video game nerd. I have been in the tech industry for 15+ years and a gamer for about my whole life! I finally escaped the tech world and went on to do waitressing and programming and I love it! So my vanilla life is actually getting better which in turn is helping my other half become more exciting and I will cover that later ;).
When did you first realize you were into bondage?
I had my first (unintentional) experience when I was a little girl. I used to love to hit everything with my hands and it drove my mom nuts haha. So her answer was to tape my hands behind my back and I discovered that I actually liked it! Now mind you I didn't purposely use my hands for hitting things afterwards haha, but I did get creative by myself and that just stuck with me the rest of my life.
How you best describe yourself and why? Your choices are: Dominant, Submissive, Switch or Fuzzy Rainbow Unicorn.
I am a submissive for sure! I have hyper issues being ADHD and all and being a submissive, it forces me to slow down and brings me back to reality. I also live a 24/7 submissive life or as much as I can outside of my job, but after work or on my days off, I am in chains, collared and leashed for the remainder of the day (after work) or all day (morning through night) on my days off.
Do you feel that your desire for bondage is more physical or emotional? (please elaborate)
I can't pick just one, because it is both for me. Bondage to me is a zen like experience and being in a zen state is both physical and emotional. Feeling the chains on my body and seeing them on my body and knowing that they never come off (unless work summons me!) really puts me at complete peace. I feel one with myself, because bondage is more about becoming one with yourself and the chores and other “activities” that follow add to the reality and experience of being a sub. Plus with the combination of physical and emotional involved in bondage teaches us many things, such as patience and self-respect. That is what I love about bondage.
What does BDSM mean to you: is it a lifestyle, a diversion, or something else?
Bondage is an absolute lifestyle for me. I love living it and I love building a stronger relationship not only with myself, but with my lover. That alone is the bread and butter of my life and a dream come true. Being restricted and bound up with tight locking ankle cuffs and locking wrist cuffs followed by a tight locking collar and high heels is my normal day. It is a lifestyle in terms of doing chores and other “activities” in tight bondage then being tied up in an immobile position until needed again or unless my daddy permits me to play games or watch a movie, otherwise I'm bound up for an allotted amount of time awaiting my next assignment. So, yes an absolute lifestyle for me.
Were lovers accepting of your interest in bondage?
No they were not haha. I dated a lot of vanilla sex people and I disliked it greatly, because I would try the “vanilla” lifestyle and it was tough for me. 6 months into the relationship I would be caught doing self-bondage and that would be the end of it haha.
Please briefly describe your first bondage experience.
My true first experience was self-bondage
. I stopped dating for a while and I got my own apartment and I was finally able to put in some good 'ole quality bondage time. Well I actually got more than I bargained for, but I loved it afterwards haha. I was heavily into self-bondage
and ice timers. I decided to setup a nice long 2 hour session, but it ended up being like 4 hours, because
I mis-calculated the time frame. So I struggled and struggled for 2 extra hours fighting the ropes and realized that I'm not getting out. I was stuck and I loved it! Then the scissors fall and I'm free. It was an amazing time, but also scary too! Please always use two safety methods if you try self-bondage, but always have a third backup plan! What was your best bondage experience?
My best experience is my current and lifetime lifestyle! I'm living my experience everyday! What is the most creative safe word you have ever used?
Cloverfield What do you feel is most important about the experience of bondage?
Trusting yourself and your partner. Boundaries and rules
will follow when trust is involved.
What is the best advice you would give to someone just starting out with BDSM?
Take it slow and enjoy it! Don't ever rush into bondage as you may think you are ready then quickly realize that you made a mistake. Always think twice about it and relax. Bondage is all about relaxing and giving up free choice and freedom to your trusted partner. Always try new things or use different methods to spice up a current bondage position. The possibilities are endless. Your imagination is key to a successful bondage experience! Try different materials (rope, chains, rubber, leatherette, etc.) and colors and build a set! Figure out what type of material suits you best and honestly, when you find that, possibilities will present themselves and imagination will go wild!! Remember, have fun!
What is your favorite gear, toy or lingerie item from sub-shop.com and why?
I absolutely love the hot pink locking wrist, ankle and collar set. They are made of leather and I can wear them all day, everyday! They are super comfy and doesn't leave any markings. They are super durable and can handle hard tugs. I would recommend them.
What is the one sensual fantasy you haven’t lived out yet that you are excited to try?
There aren't actually, because I'm living it everyday, except work days haha :(.
Can crop circles be square?
Can we have voice activated bondage gear? If so, I'll be glad to make all circles into squares haha. Sorry I know, that was super lame, but a girl has to try! Ugh that was lame too, I'll show myself to my bondage bed now.
If you had to be trapped in a tv show for a month, which would you choose and why?
I would choose the show AFK. It's basically about people playing an online MMORPG and then they “wake” up inside the game as the character that they last played as. But if you die in the game, well it's game over haha. I would love to live as my powerful Wood Elf character (high end gear and powerful ebony bow). I can control animals and self-heal, plus with the added bonus of maxed out sneak and 10x damage on stealth kills. I would be unstoppable!!
Is there anything else you would like to share with us such as advice, thoughts or a silly knock-knock jokes? We are all ears and ball gags.
What did one ball gag say to the other ball gag? I don't know, I can't understand it either! Ha! Funfact 1: I typed this whole thing up while chained up! Fun fact 2: I'm about to get hog tied for telling such a bad joke! Okay, fellow bondsters have fun! Love you! Thank you for this opportunity Autumn! I feel honored to be on this site. You are the best and please keep doing what you do best! Last tip (no pun intended!) always look both ways before crossing a hallway in tight chore