Please tell us a little bit about yourself – How would you describe your everyday vanilla life?
I'm a 46-year-old mother of 4 incredible boys. I've been with my amazing man for 32 years; our 25th Wedding Anniversary is in October this year. I'm one of those crazy people who actually loves the endorphin high of working out. Bootcamp and spinning are my masochistic choices! I work for a local school. One of my pure joys is sketching naughty drawings. I also enjoy taking long motorcycle rides with Chief and we like completing DIY projects around the house.
When did you first realize you were into bondage?
I knew at an early age something was different about me. As a very young girl, I would love to take my Dad's belt and wrap it around my wrists or ankles, hide behind a chair and pretend I was captured waiting for (my choice of heroes at the time) Mighty Mouse to rescue me! I was fascinated with duct tape; the smell, the sound of it pulling off the roll and tearing. Many times those torn pieces landed and sealed my mouth shut! During bedtime as a young teenager, tucking in would consist of tying myself up with socks to my bed. Back then, I never understood why I took comfort in doing this. It was hard growing up because I felt conflicted. Especially when my Mother caught me and told me how wrong it was for me doing that to myself. I never understood, I was a bondage loving submissive and there was nothing wrong with me!
How you best describe yourself and why? Your choices are: Dominant, Submissive, Switch or Fuzzy Rainbow Unicorn.
Heart and soul, I am a natural submissive with slave tendencies! I genuinely feel joy and comfort in serving and pleasing my Chief even with the smallest tasks. Even though in my daily life I take control of the household and thrive on routine, there has always been a deep need to relinquish control to him. It brings a smile to my face knowing I can anticipate his needs even before he realizes what he wants!
Do you feel that your desire for bondage is more physical or emotional? (please elaborate)
I would have to say it's both for me. I'm a submissive who has a hard time shutting down my mind because it travels in a thousand directions. Submitting and relinquishing control in bondage centers me; it gives my body physical permission to completely be present for Chief. When he ties me up for a play session, I know I'm not responsible for anything that happens, I can only let go and feel. There's an emotional sense of freedom that flows from me which allows me to be pushed over the edge with my sexual release.
Please briefly describe your first bondage experience.
My first true bondage experience was with rope. This happened a few years into our marriage when I finally opened up about my fantasies. Chief was very accepting of my naughty thoughts and couldn't wait to fulfill those needs. One night he surprised and presented me with soft white rope. I was placed spread eagle style on his bed and tied to each corner. I couldn't believe how aroused this made me; it was a dream come true! I got the biggest thrill struggling, tugging and pulling on the ropes as he begun to use me. We were both pleasantly surprised at how much we enjoyed the experience. That night created a very positive, kinky, loving spin on our lifestyle.
What was your best bondage experience?
I've had so many great bondage experiences. Thanks to sub-shop.com, over the many years we've added to our collection of bondage equipment things like cuffs, collars, masks and tape to name a few. All of which, we've used in many different ways. Chief has gotten very creative with his bed attaching bolted anchors for bondage play. The nights he chains me to the bed are so much fun, it really gets the juices flowing! One bondage experience stands out for me: I always had a fantasy about being confined and sexually used in a straight jacket. So when I saw one Autumn was selling one, I didn't hesitate, my fantasy finally came true thanks to her!
Mercy, for when I need things to slow down. Our stop safeword is orangutan!
What is the best advice you would give to someone just starting out with BDSM?
Communicate, Communicate! You and your lover need to understand and talk about each other's needs and desires. Trust is also key! I would suggest starting slow with your bondage sessions and build on that trust. If you're like me who gets turned on by talking out BDSM scenes, then by all means do so! Plan out a play scenario, experience it, and then take the time to talk about it after. What you enjoyed or would change. This benefits both parties greatly because you both learn and grow about your style of BDSM.
What’s your favorite knock-knock joke?
(in a sexy voice) Who do you want it to be?