Please tell us a little bit about yourself – How would you be describe your everyday vanilla life?
My life revolves around the greatest girlfriend and partner anyone could ask for and my amazing dog who is like my child. I am a huge sports fan. Go Giants, Rangers and Mets. Grew up playing sports. I am a tv/movie junkie as well. Due to an accident many years ago I am not as active as I once was. I am unable to work for the most part due to the accident. I am very fortunate to be able to take care of myself. I have a caring family and friends who are always there when needed, rain or shine.
When did you first realize you were into bondage?
In some way as long as I can remember. I do not recall a specific time or event. I just knew what excited me, and what didn't. I can recall watching TV shows like Batman and Robin and when they would get captured and held captive it always interested me.
How you best describe yourself and why? Your choices are: Dominant, Submissive, Switch or Fuzzy Rainbow Unicorn.
I have always been the protective one. Looking out for others. When I played sports I was physical and loved the aggression. I was always the first to come to the aid of a teammate. I can't and never could accept someone who preys on a weaker person or animal. That brings out the nasty in me. Outside of that part of my life is when I am more in touch with my submissive side. I like having a sense of control in my "every day life." Prior to my accident I worked in a profession where I needed to be in control all the time, but at home, in relationships, I looked for the opposite.
Do you feel that your desire for bondage is more physical or emotional? (please elaborate)
Without a doubt both. The emotional side is usually the overriding factor, but there are plenty of times when I crave the physical. The emotional side acts as an escape. It's hard to worry about every day issues when you are tied down, in chastity and being toyed with. Your focus is as much in the moment as it gets. It's just you and your partner, as if we are the only 2 on the planet. I crave the feeling of surrendering total control to please and amuse my partner. The joy it brings her, and let's be honest, me as well, is overwhelming. Not knowing what is in store is a huge part of it. My lovely partner is so wickedly creative, and playful. She truly enjoys taking control. As for the physical side I can be a bit of a pain slut so I am told, and crave that side of it as well. Our play time works well for us because it is never really the same. Vanilla sex became real boring real fast for me growing up.
Were lovers accepting of your interest in bondage?
No, not really. It was very difficult to bring up. When it was touched on it lacked the real feel. I was always craving more. That's why I knew I found my perfect match when my partner and I got together. We kind of had a head start of sorts. We were friends going back to lower school. She knew about my interests and I of hers. She used to love to drive me wild, but as we got older we were always in relationships. We had lost contact for a while. The timing was never there. When we found each other a few years ago it was meant to be. We were both single and not really looking. One day she was over visiting and we started talking about our desires, and if we had found anyone to fulfill them. This was the start of something awesome. Fast forward 2 years and we are inseparable. We were so truly lucky. So please never give up on your desires. You know what drives you, and you will never be happy trying to silence those desires.
Please briefly describe your first bondage experience.
My first actual bondage experience was very innocent, yet shaped my future. We were kids. My current girlfriend and two of her friends were playing. They wanted to capture me as their prisoner. I remember thinking they will never succeed. I was wrong. They tied me to the couch and tickled my feet to the point of tears. It came and went pretty quickly, but a fire was lit from that day on. My first real bondage experience was in college. I was pledging a fraternity and we were turned over to our sister sorority as "slaves" for 24 hours. After some light hazing things turned a little more serious. It started with foot rubs, and I have always had a foot fetish. I was getting a little excited and one of the girls teased that I liked it. A few nights later she had me over and asked if I would let her tie me up. Of course I couldn't believe it. It was overwhelming. She teased me a bit at first and then blindfolded me. It was incredible. We played a few times after that, and the year was over. That was it, for over 14 years.
What was your best bondage experience?
When my girlfriend introduced me to chastity, largely thanks to a device she had me order here at the sub-shop. It was true torture, and bliss wrapped in one. We always fooled around with tease and denial, but it usually ended with release. This was an entirely new level. I believe our play time that night was a little over 4 hours. She drove me out of my mind. The combination of pleasure and pain, without the possibility of release was insane. We have made this a huge part of our life together. She is so good at pushing my buttons.
What is the most creative safeword you have ever used?
Penalty. This has duel meaning. Yes it would stop things or alter them, but it also meant I would be penalized down the road.
What is your favorite gear, toy or lingerie item from sub-shop.com and why?
Wow this is a tough one. I know my girlfriend's favorite item is the electric chastity device. This can be very cruel. She also loves the various nipple clamps. Knowing how much she loves my reaction to her favorites kind of makes them my favorites. If I had to choose I would say my electric chastity. It lacks the jolt of electricity and leads to a lot of frustration, but even more pleasure.
What is the one sensual fantasy you haven’t lived out yet that you are excited to try?
We have been discussing a full hood. Total black out. No sound, or sight, and gagged. For a minimum of 2 hours. This would involve no safe word, just an understanding of what is in store. We have discussed using a head shake if something was wrong. This terrifies and excites me all at the same time. I do believe we are going to try this on my birthday in June.
What’s your favorite knock-knock joke?
Who's there? Dwayne. Dwayne who? Dwayne the bathtub I'm drowning. My nephew told me this joke a few years back. While we have all heard it before, it's the way he says it that gets me every time.
What is Eskimo ice?
Colder than regular ice