Please tell us a little bit about yourself – How would you describe your everyday vanilla life?
I am one who likes to live an adventurous lifestyle. Life is too short to be sitting around and doing nothing (unless your tied up and gagged ;). I have a great personality and I'm most notable for making people laugh. I love to help others when I can and I am more giving than taking (that's outside the bedroom lol). My everyday vanilla lifestyle consists of sex with my partner after I get home from the gym. Nothing like getting a second workout in! We are both kissers. She is more about giving me oral pleasure and I'm about giving her the finger stimulation. I try to keep the orgasms balanced between the both of us only because relationships go both ways; it’s not a one-way street.
When did you first realize you were into bondage?
I realized I was into bondage probably around middle school. There was something exciting about it that peaked my interest. Ever since then I find myself trying more and more of the bondage lifestyle.
How you best describe yourself and why? Your choices are: Dominant, Submissive, Switch or Fuzzy Rainbow Unicorn.
Well, I am definitely not a fuzzy rainbow Unicorn! I would consider myself as the submissive in the relationship. My partner loves to give me pleasure and pain. I think for her it’s more about being in control and she likes that. I enjoy being the submissive because it gives me the opportunity to give up control! There's nothing like being tied to the bed, hooded and gagged experiencing sensual touches of pleasure and pain while you cant do anything about it.
Do you feel that your desire for bondage is more physical or emotional? (please elaborate)
For me, it's physical. It's all about understanding the sensations and how certain levels of pain can create pleasure. It can create a high and a sense of euphoria in my mind. It almost feels like my mind is riding the waves of the ocean going up and down. It’s a feeling that feels great, especially if you get into sensory deprivation.
Were lovers accepting of your interest in bondage?
To tell you the truth, I was not very open about my interest in bondage in past relationships. It was only as I got older I felt the need to let them know. If someone was not interested in bondage with me, all I got was a simple, "No."
Please briefly describe your first bondage experience.
First experience was very light. The use of Velcro handcuffs and being tied up in the back of my car at the mall parking lot. My girlfriend at the time also wanted to experiment with breath play by choking. It definitely intensified the moment and her orgasm!
What was your best bondage experience?
My best bondage experience was with my current lover a couple of years ago. She tied my hands behind my back, locked a posture collar on me, and gagged me. She then proceeded to put a leash on me and dragged me naked to the shower where she cleaned my whole body while being tied up standing (It was quite refreshing). She then towel dried me and took me to the bedroom where she began tying me down. A cock cage was also used. Once she tied me to the bed, she took off my gag and placed a hood over my head. She flogged me a couple of times through out the course of the night. Later on she pulled half my hood off my face so that only my lips and mouth were showing. She made me perform oral sex on her as she flogged the top of my body. After she got tired of the flogger, she proceeded to melt candle wax all over my body as she received pleasure from my tongue. I then received pleasure once my cock cage was removed. It was one of the most exciting and best bondage experiences I’ve had with her!
What is the most creative safe word you have ever used?
No safe word! Just kidding. The most creative safe word that I ever used was "yellow banana".
What do you feel is most important about the experience of bondage?
The most important thing about the experience of bondage would have to be TRUST. I think once you get involved with bondage your levels of trust start to expand emotionally and physically.
What is the best advice you would give to someone just starting out with BDSM?
Just have fun! Listen, you don't have to try something so hardcore and painful the first time you get into it. The sub-shop can offer you many light alternatives to get started and that's what I would recommend. Once you experience a little bit about what BDSM has to offer, you can pretty much explore on your own! You will be surprised about the different sensations you learn about.
What is your favorite gear, toy or lingerie item from sub-shop.com and why?
The panel ball gag and posture collar that locks. I like the fact the ball gag keeps your mouth shut really tight, and plus, the attachments that can be used for such as, being hogtied! The posture collar and other collars have always been a turn on for me. The idea of my neck being restricted just turns me on. I like it a lot ;)
What is the one sensual fantasy you haven’t lived out yet that you are excited to try?
I would like to try mummification or better yet a vac-bed! I always wanted to be encased in plastic or tight latex. I think it would be fun and exciting. The experience of not being to move at all sounds like the right fit for me (literally). Do I only have to name one? ;)
What’s your favorite knock-knock joke?
"A broken pencil."
"A broken pencil who?"
"Never mind it's pointless."
What is Eskimo ice?
Sounds like it's some really expensive ice, LOL. Whatever it is, I'm sure it’s dirty! My guess would be sexual intercourse between two individuals in very cold conditions. I'll let you get creative from here on out!
If your vanilla lifestyle and sex get boring spice it up with a little bit of bondage. Trying new things and experiencing what you have not done can open up a new world for you! People often judge before trying something new and those people end up missing out on a lot in life! So get kinky and spice up your lover's life!