When did you first realize you were into bondage?
Well, not sure I can mention names, but...since you asked...In my early twenties I worked at a store and had to put magazines on display rack. These were mainstream magazines but the back cover of one caught my eye as it featured a pretty actress named Cathy Lee Crosby in some light bondage themed photo shoot, tied loosely to a pole and on the beach, very tastefully done and she was scantily clothed. She seemed to be enjoying it and I was very intrigued. Very intrigued.
How you best describe yourself and why? Your choices are: Dominant, Submissive, Switch or Fuzzy Rainbow Unicorn.
Always used to describe myself as dominant, but lately my lady has altered my view so I am still evolving and that is a good thing
Do you feel that your desire for bondage is more physical or emotional? (please elaborate)
Probably more emotional; to me, there is a loving aspect in it. And there definitely has to be trust. I find the image of a bound and gagged female truly beautiful. I used to wonder if it was truly just a man's fantasy and women just played along so to speak but through experience found I was pleasantly mistaken.
Please briefly describe your first bondage experience.
It had to have been 30 years ago, I'm lucky I can remember what I had for breakfast yesterday.
But let me say every time I put my lover in bondage or she puts me it, is like the first time all over again. It never gets old
What was your best bondage experience?
There are so many, but one thing that sticks out in my head is a recent one where my lover completely shocked and surprised me by buying a pair of handcuffs and tricked me cuffing me with hands behind my back and it excited me because she took charge and I liked that and felt desired, so getting back to your earlier question of is the need more physical or emotional - the emotional rush I felt in the moment was powerful and she continues to please and amaze me.
What is the most creative safeword you have ever used?
We have never used a safe word. But the bondage we practice is not one involving very dangerous toys. The ropes, scarves, or straps are tight and my lover is always gagged (unless she is fighting a cold and has stuffy nose) and one of the on-going jokes is that I live in an apartment where the walls seem to be paper thin so it excites her when I put her ball-gag in and tell her it has to be pulled to the very last notch to keep her quiet so the neighbors don't hear. I enjoy making my lover climax while she is tied for me and I talk to her throughout the helpless situation and this also seems to heighten her arousal.
What do you feel is most important about the experience of bondage?
What is the best advice you would give to someone just starting out with BDSM?
If you are lucky enough to find a lover who does not judge you and is into the things you enjoy, hold her (or him tight) Yes, tie them up and never let them go and treat them like the King or Queen they are outside of the bedroom.
What is your favorite gear, toy or lingerie item from sub-shop.com and why?
I have bought many toys from Sub-Shop.com and one of my favorites is the white ball-gag which my lover says it seems a bit bigger than her red one but looks so nice when she is hogtied. I also enjoy the different size straps that I use for her ankles or wrists or even as four points. Shop-Shop offers so many great gags, but I have seen some sexy leather like gags on some models that almost look like blindfold material but never seen them for sale anywhere. I think they'd be called panel gags, but the ones I see for sale always have metal rivets on the front of gag....just a suggestion if you're listening (wink wink, as you'd say)
What is the one sensual fantasy you haven’t lived out yet that you are excited to try?
Going along with the emotional aspect of desire, I have to admit while browsing through the sub-shop site I recently came across male chastity devices. Now, I can't say I am very knowledgeable about this, but hey, I am always looking to expand my horizon when it comes to learning. It is interesting to find articles that describe the man's libido and desire to please his woman actually increases the longer he is kept "locked up" so to speak. It is very exciting to read how some women tease their lovers by withholding the key and making their lover service them over and over again...it is a quite exciting read....again, I wonder if perhaps a man is writing the article and it is a man's fantasy or if women are really into this.
So this is a fantasy I am curious about.