Please tell us a little bit about yourself – How would you describe your everyday vanilla life?
Hi! I’m Iris, and I’m a bookkeeper. I’d like to think a really sexy bookkeeper, sometimes I use my profession in a scene for fun! I love trying new things and currently enjoying hiking as a new hobby. When did you first realize you were into bondage?
I’ve always known what bondage was even before getting into it. But it never really interested me until I stumbled upon a bondage porn video. It was a Femdom video and it got me really hot and bothered while watching it. That’s when I realized how much I wanted to try this kind of scene out for myself.
How you best describe yourself and why? Your choices are: Dominant, Submissive, Switch or Fuzzy Rainbow Unicorn.
As research, I kind of went ahead and tried all possible roles out. But nothing gives me more pleasure and rush to do than being a Dominant. It really gets my blood boiling when I have total control in my hands. So that’s what I’m advertising myself as. A really sexy Dominant bookkeeper! And besides, “Madame Iris” has a really nice ring to it, don’t you think? I love it when subs and other BDSM fellows call me that!
Do you feel that your desire for bondage is more physical or emotional? (please elaborate)
Were lovers accepting of your interest in bondage?
It’s more physical for me since I like using my own strength while Domming. For a woman who doesn't use that much of her physical abilities in her daily life, Domming is a great workout for me! I love how it gives my muscles that good burn and some real good orgasms as well, which is something you'll only get with really good sex or well-staged BDSM sessions. But there is that emotional aspect as well that makes everything more exciting. I mean, after a scene and both you and your partner - or partners - experience this feeling of fulfillment, is a high like no other. There's a huge amount of trust exchanged when doing a scene, and that's part of the emotional aspect of BDSM.
It's quite hard to find a man who would fully trust you and give up the reigns
when it comes to sex, especially for heavier plays. But I found that my previous lovers are open to some lighter stuff. I've done some handcuffs
and blindfolds with some of them, but I've never done anything more. I'm currently single, and although it would be fun to have someone as a lover both in and out of a scene, I'm totally happy with just Domming in clubs and private sessions!
Please briefly describe your first bondage experience.
If we're going really technical, then it was the time when my ex-boyfriend held me down with just brute force. It was consensual of course, he was a football player and when I saw those muscles, I just wanted to feel his strength, the adventurous person in me taking over. But if we're taking about handcuffs, gags, and the like, then my first experience is a BDSM club where I tried as a sub for the experience.
What was your best bondage experience?
I had a scene where we played for 2 days straight. I really took time off from my job because this particular sub was a regular partner of mine and we were really compatible with each other, so we wanted to try and see how long we can play. It was exhilarating for the both of us to really let go of our inhibitions and let our inner freaks out for such a long time! We were both so pleasantly exhausted after the second day, that we had a professional, full-body massage the day after and spoiled ourselves with good food and alcohol for the rest of our vacation.
We're still friends up to this day and occasional BDSM partners. We haven't been able to get our schedules coordinated for a long session, but what can you do, real life sometimes just stand in the way of nice vacations!
What is the most creative safe word you have ever used?
Mayonnaise. It's quite startling to hear when you're doing something that's supposedly sexy and fun. So yeah, that's one of the most creative and effective for me.
What do you feel is most important about the experience of bondage?
What you feel after you experience it, really. If you're just starting out or is interested in doing some bondage, then you should understand how you feel about it after experiencing it with someone trustworthy. If you like it then great! If you don't then that's fine. You might love it in certain circumstances and don't want to fully commit to a BDSM lifestyle, which is perfectly okay.
What is the best advice you would give to someone just starting out with BDSM?
What is your favorite gear, toy or lingerie item from sub-shop.com and why?
As I've said, find someone trustworthy to play with you. Always clean your toysbefore and after use and remember to have fun!
It really depends on my mood, but I am currently loving sub-shop's blindfold
collection. The supreme coverage is perfect for sensation play! I love it when my sub has absolutely no idea what I'm going to do next. It heightens a sub's sensitivity so much that even simple spanking sessions can make them extremely sensitive.
What is the one sensual fantasy you haven’t lived out yet that you are excited to try?
Oooh, I’ve been interested in breath control lately. I’ve done choking and breath play, but not in a scene where it’s the main point of the play.
If I gave you an elephant where would you hide it?
Oh no, hahaha! I only have a small apartment! Well, I’d probably just leave it in the biggest backyard that I’d see first.
How does it feel to be the most desirable man/woman on the earth?
Thank you! If I can be as desirable a Domme as I am a woman, then I’d be the happiest on earth as well!