Meet John A.K.A Aubrey

Please tell us a little bit about yourself – How would you describe your everyday vanilla life?

I'm a pretty modest person, most people would never guess I enjoy cross-dressing and being tied up. I work in the evening, which means I wake up naturally instead of to an alarm. I typically pack a dinner, play some Pokemon Go, and hit the gym right before heading to work. Once I'm off I get to go home to a well-made bed topped with my favorite stuffed animals and my roommate's cat staring at me.

When did you first realize you were into bondage?

It was around 8th grade, I was hanging out with my best friend in her basement. She was rooting around a closet and a roll of duct tape found its way to her hands. She decided I'd look best with my arms taped behind my back, I quickly told her that I'd run upstairs and tell her dad if she didn't tape my legs too, which she promptly did. Next I said I'd yell for him and of course my mouth was
immediately taped over with several pieces. As I lay there squirming with new sensation flowing through my body, she added more tape to my elbows and thighs. She grabbed a scarf and blindfolded me. I don' know how long I was tied up, but I wouldn't have had a problem if I was there the entire night, wiggling around joyfully as she watched amazed at her product. After that I've always craved bondage either on me or restraining my partner. (She's also the one that got me started on cross-dressing by forcing me into her clothes; at least, she thought she was forcing me to do it, I was more than willing to try the rest of the outfit after I slipped on her bra and panties.)

How you best describe yourself and why? Your choices are: Dominant, Submissive, Switch or Fuzzy Rainbow Unicorn.

100% Switch. I both love being the rigger and rope bunny. I typically go through phases of which I prefer more, and the latter is how I found my way here.

Do you feel that your desire for bondage is more physical or emotional? (please elaborate)

For me it's emotional feelings throughout the day, pondering over new ways I could bind myself. When I'm home and ready for rope, it's all physical. Once rope or a leather strap touches my body I'm sent into a squirming pleasurable frenzy desperate for tighter restraints.

What does BDSM mean to you: is it a lifestyle, a diversion, or something else?

BSDM is an exciting diversion I suppose. If I'm just sitting around playing Xbox I'll throw a few pieces of rope on myself and a collar, but I've never found a group or have had the confidence tobecome social about BDSM.

Were lovers accepting of your interest in bondage?

I've only had a couple lovers, and it was about 50/50 on if they enjoyed it. My first GF was absolutely against it, not even hand cuffs. The next gal got into it when I brought it up and I always had fun being tied/tying her. My first BF was also not into it but was willing to make a few compromises, and the last guy I dated thoroughly loved placing me in bondage predicaments. Bondage isn't for everyone, and shouldn't be pressed onto people who don't want it, so it might
take a few tries to find someone who is willing to do it.

Please briefly describe your first bondage experience.

My first experience was pretty basic, My GF at the time wanted to be hogtied, so I placed her in a loose but still restraining tie. I moved her to the edge of the bed and well, utilized her amazing head giving skills. We swapped roles and she tied me very tightly in the same way and centered me on the bed and served me a wonderful dessert, using her thighs as earmuffs. But she thought it would be cute to not untie me while she got up and showed me a bunch of new outfits she bought ranging from cute casual wear to daringly sexy lingerie. She proceeded to roam about the room in just a garter belt, stockings and a cupless bra, teasing me, knowing exactly how bad I wanted her body. And of course she had to work soon and left with me still tied up. All I could do was squirm and wait for her return, which happened soon enough. She placed me in a spread eagle position and showed me what she could do with her body until the night was over. And yet she still didn't untie me, instead swapping out a brass lock for a time lock set to 8hrs and left me there wanting more for the night.

What was your best bondage experience?

One day I came home from work and my BF was waiting for me with an outfit he wanted me to wear, just a corset, skirt, and a pair of short heels. I gleefully put it all on and he ushered me to the closet and slid out a dog cage stuffed with pillows and a new stuffed animal. He placed leather/fur cuffs on my wrists, ankles, thighs, and a collar around my neck. He attached a leash to my collar and forced me onto my knees and fixed my ankles to my thighs. He placed cute little cat ears on my head and a matching tail plug. Then forced me into the cage and affixed my hands to my thighs as well. He locked the cage and left me there all night. When the sun poked through the windows he let me out but kept me tied up, swapping different restraints and plugs. He tied me in several different ways throughout the day. At the end of the day I went back into the cage for the night.

What is the most creative safe word you have ever used?

I've never needed a safe word because my partners and I knew each other's limits and never got too deep into hard bondage.

What do you feel is most important about the experience of bondage?

Other than getting extremely wonderful pleasure, having a bondage partner builds immense amount of trust.

What is the best advice you would give to someone just starting out with BDSM?

Start slow and build a good relationship with someone before you dive into BDSM, it can be painful at times but you have to be able to trust your partner.

What is your favorite gear, toy or lingerie item from sub-shop.com and why?

What is the one sensual fantasy you haven’t lived out yet that you are excited to try?

I really want to try suspension bondage, or use metal restraints that allow almost no movement.

Can crop circles be square?

No, because UFOs are discs and/or the tractors can't turn at right angles.

Is there anything else you would like to share with us such as advice, thoughts or a silly knock-knock jokes? We are all ears and ball gags.

It took a long time to find out what I wanted and to be comfortable with who I am, and now it doesn't matter to me what people think.