When did you first realize you were into bondage?
I was a young teen-ager and would self bondage to masturbate.
How you best describe yourself and why? Your choices are: Dominant, Submissive, Switch or Fuzzy Rainbow Unicorn.
I am a switch. I enjoy being dominant and also submissive. Probably more sub.
Do you feel that your desire for bondage is more physical or emotional? (please elaborate)
Wow Autumn, how can I choose? For me, the desire for bondage is physical, emotional, mental, spiritual and seems to be what I think about most of the time.
Were lovers accepting of your interest in bondage?
So far, only one woman I have dated/loved/had a fling with did not want anything to do with it. She wasn't adverse to bondage per se, she just wanted to be able to move. The way she did move convinced me not to tie her up while she was sleeping. I am on the verge of being on the cusp of almost becoming an old man (was born in 1951) and every other woman I have been with has been very enthusiastic about trying bondage/S&M/Roleplay with me.
Please briefly describe your first bondage experience.
I was quite young, and asked my childhood sweetheart if she would like to try it. She said she wondered if I was into bondage and what took me so long to bring it up. We then took turns for the whole night switching between dom and sub with each other. A little over a year later we married.
What was your best bondage experience?
Wow, just the other night. Let me see if I can describe it. My girlfriend restrained me with padded leather cuffs on my wrists, ankles and thighs, with a spreader bar between the ankle cuffs. The wrist cuffs were attached to the thigh cuffs, which were attached to the ankle cuffs. I was going nowhere - get the picture?
She then began to use the flogger on my crotch, alternating between the flogger and a magic wand for a few seconds with each one. Drove me wild. Just when I was close to orgasm, she held the wand against my love muscle while beating it with the flogger. For the first time, I really understood what she meant by multiple orgasms. I never had that happen before. Simply awesome, I came for what seemed like an eternity! (probably about a minute in reality - but that's a REALLY LONG TIME for a guy.
What is the most creative safeword you have ever used?
I am not into giving/receiving enough pain to ever worry about a safe word. This may sound irresponsible, but it is not since no one is hurt.
What do you feel is most important about the experience of bondage?
The experience of bondage is the most important part. Like I said before, it is emotional, mental, physical and spiritual. To me, it is the best way of having sex and showing your love.
What is the best advice you would give to someone just starting out with BDSM?
To someone just starting, I would recommend taking it easy at first. When I started there was no internet and BDSM/Bondage/ etc. were taboo in the mainstream. I had to use my fantasies to learn. These days there is no shortage of research material.
What is your favorite gear, toy or lingerie item from sub-shop.com and why?
Anything I have purchased from Autumn has been of high quality and exactly as described. So I don't have one favorite item, I have two (although I have bought much more than just two items from Sub-Shop): the thigh to ankle and wrist set black pvc cuff set and this catsuit. The one I bought is just slightly different. I love it when my girlfriend wears this and dominates me!
What is the one sensual fantasy you haven’t lived out yet that you are excited to try?
This one should be easy to guess. For me, as with most straight males, the ultimate fantasy is being with two women at the same time. To incorporate a second woman into our bondage play would send me over the moon. I know, however, it probably won't ever happen. Like I said I am a little bit older so finding another woman willing would be difficult, and I'm pretty sure my girlfriend wouldn't go for it anyway. So, if it never comes to pass I will still be happy with who I am with and am not looking for somebody else. Since she has fulfilled and is fulfilling all my other fantasies how can I gripe?
What’s your favorite knock-knock joke?
Orange you going to open the door?
What is Eskimo ice?
A Nicaraguan ice cream company.