Please tell us a little bit about yourself – How would you be describe your everyday vanilla life?
I'm retired and spend my days doing home improvement projects, riding my bicycle, restoring old cars, and doing some hunting in the fall.
When did you first realize you were into bondage?
I was about 10 years old when I first realized I loved the appearance of the female body in bondage. From there, I found some willing neighborhood girls who would visit my back yard "hide out" to play bondage games.
How you best describe yourself and why? Your choices are: Dominant, Submissive, Switch or Fuzzy Rainbow Unicorn.
I have always been Dominant. A couple of attempts by my ex-wife to tie me up were pretty disappointing, so I have not let any woman try it since.
Do you feel that your desire for bondage is more physical or emotional? (please elaborate)
My feelings about bondage are both emotional and physical. If I don't have both attachments with my partner, I feel the act is pointless.
Were lovers accepting of your interest in bondage?
Of the women I've been intimate with, only two of them flatly refused to participate in my bondage activities.
Please briefly describe your first bondage experience.
Some of my neighborhood friends were playing at a game of "good guys and bad guys". I captured a neighbor girl and pulled her into my "hideout". I always had rope around, so I tied her up. Once she was well bound, she decided to struggle, so I held onto her tightly. Next thing I knew, she was trying to kiss me, so I put a lip lock on her and we spent the next 15 minutes exploring each other's tongue. I knew I was aroused and there was no doubt she was. After that encounter, she was a regular visitor to my hideout for more rope play. A year later, during a very adventurous session, I pulled a rope up between her thighs and cinched it tight in her crotch. That was when we both realized how sexual the rope play was because she had a "happy ending" from that well placed rope!
What was your best bondage experience?
10 years ago, my girlfriend and I stopped at a road side park that has an over look deck to view the nearby lake. It was dark, so I tied her up, took a knife and cut her (thrift shop) clothing off. I tied her to the deck railing and took a bunch of pictures! There were cars driving by the park 50 yards away, and I'm sure the guys fishing on the lake still wonder about the lights from my camera flash! After the pictures, I walked her, still bound and gagged to the car, and we drove 45 miles, back to my house, stopping often to enjoy her bound charms!
Most creative safe word: I like to use a simple safe word...stop works well for me! I really like her to say things that will get me going, so I use REVERSE SAFE WORDS. If she says "no more" that means she wants MORE. If she says "no" it means "YES!"
What do you feel is most important about the experience of bondage?
It all has to be worked out in advance and then practiced, practiced, practiced! No matter how intense the scene is, at the end she must feel safe and desirable. She is a human being, not a piece of meat.
What is the best advice you would give to someone just starting out with BDSM?
This comes from an editorial from the old HOM bondage magazines..."A willing partner is too precious to harm with a thoughtlessly placed rope!"
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What is the one sensual fantasy you haven’t lived out yet that you are excited to try?