Meet Southern Sir

Please tell us a little bit about yourself – How would you describe your everyday vanilla life?

I am a younger kinkster, I am just about to graduate college. I am an artistic person and I want to pursue my art. I am generally soft-spoken and reserved in my vanilla life, which makes for a nice surprise/contrast haha.

When did you first realize you were into bondage?
When I first discovered it was a thing. I did not understand why I was into it though, until later.

How you best describe yourself and why?  Your choices are: Dominant, Submissive, Switch or Fuzzy Rainbow Unicorn. 

I describe myself as dominant because at heart I am a protector, teacher, and nurturer.

Do you feel that your desire for bondage is more physical or emotional?  (please elaborate)

I feel like my desire for bondage starts in the emotional state, where I wish to have a submissive under me to give themselves to me for their benefit, and that manifests itself physically in bondage.

I also just love the aesthetic of it.It is beautiful.

What does BDSM mean to you: is it a lifestyle, a diversion, or something else?

It is definitely a part of my core as a person, but I cannot keep it up 24/7. On the other hand, it is more than just a diversion. I'd say BDSM is a way to express myself, much like art. And like art, the experience should be shared with another.

Were lovers accepting of your interest in bondage?

Varying degrees. Some wouldn't go farther than holding their hands above their head, others wanted to try out my cuffs haha.

Please briefly describe your first bondage experience.

I just met a new sub who was as serious about it as I was. I had brought a dress tie with me (this was before I purchased your wonderful products) and I used it to tie her wrists together. It was kind of a beautiful moment.

What was your best bondage experience?

When I got to look at all of my bondage gear worn at once by a lovely play partner.

What is the most creative safe word you have ever used?

I only really use the street light system, but outside of scenes I joke about safe words like "Tooty-fruity".

What do you feel is most important about the experience of bondage?

The beautiful trust between a sub and a Dom.

What is the best advice you would give to someone just starting out with BDSM?

Take your time. A good experience is worth the wait. Always remember you are a human being who deserves the best.

What is your favorite gear, toy or lingerie item from and why?

The red ball gag/ring harness gag. I just have an irrational love of gags.

What is the one sensual fantasy you haven’t lived out yet that you are excited to try?

I would love to spend a whole weekend on a one on one kinky retreat with a sub I love. Just us, in our dynamic, and whatever devious plans I have lined up.

Can crop circles be square?


If you had to be trapped in a tv show for a month, which would you choose and why?

Phineas and Ferb because they make each day count.

Is there anything else you would like to share with us such as advice, thoughts or a silly knock-knock jokes? We are all ears and ball gags.

Be kind. Be thoughtful. Be unapologetically kinky.

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