Submission is a mystery to many. What is submission? Is it real? How do I get there? Is it safe? How will I know if I am in submission? How does it feel? If you are wondering these questions, then you have come to the right place. Many people are misinformed or confused about submission, and we are here to clear things up. Let’s discuss. And yes, it’s real.
So, what is this submission thing?
Submission is something that happens during a BDSM play. As a submissive, you will experience an altered state of your consciousness. That means you will have a feeling which is similar to being drunk or high, except you get to enjoy your altered consciousness without taking any drugs. Isn’t that a deal?
A group of hormones and chemicals called endorphin, epinephrine and enkephalins are produced in your body during BDSM plays like suspension bondage, spanking, flogging etc. These chemicals are released in your body as a response to fight or flight situations.
How does being in submission feel?
Many submissive women experience submission without knowing that they are in a submission. It’s like having a special moment and not knowing it. You enjoyed it, but you could have enjoyed it more if you knew something special is happening.
Here are some symptoms of subspace:
- Trance-like floaty good feeling that submissive can get lost in. Wouldn’t that be wonderful?
- Disassociation from reality.
- Inability to speak. Many submissive women can’t speak properly in submission.
- Slow reaction to sensations including pain.
- Difficulty comprehending speech or direct or directions.
- Intense pleasure.
- Some people have out of body experiences. One of the best spiritual experiences one can have.
- Hyper activity
- Childlike behavior
- Losing sense of time. With all these going on, who can keep track of time, right?
- A sense of peace and tranquility
Different people show different symptoms in submission. Each time you enter subspace it’s going to be completely different than before. It all depends on how your responds to the situation. You will have a good experience as long you have trust and good understanding with your partner.
How to access subspace?
There is a misconception about subspace that pain and intense sensation in required to access subspace. This is not true. You can access subspace without exposing yourself to pain and intense sensation. Tell your partner how you want to do it. Discuss all the terms and conditions. Because when you are in submission, you might not be able to speak up or use the safe word. If you don’t prefer to get intense, you don’t have to.
Environment is a vital point in submission. You need have the right settings and furniture around you. You will need BDSM gears suited to your preferences. Floggers, whips, ropes, paddles are some of the essential gears for submission. You can always throw in a little roleplay, get some costumes for you and your partners. Cross dress if you want. You are in it for a good time.
There is one thing you should never do when trying to enter subspace, and that is trying to access subspace. Just focus on the pleasure. If you keep thinking that you need to enter subspace then you can never do it. The thought will distract you. Just relax, go with the flow, and you will get there.
Entering subspace can be very enjoyable, but you should also practice caution. If you go far into subspace, you can injure yourself without knowing it. In subspace, your sensation to pain will decrease. It’s very important to discuss the limits with your partner or you might end up getting hurt. During submission, you are going to be completely vulnerable, so always choose someone you can trust and rely on.
Some people say that submission is the holy grail of BDSM plays. What do you think?