Meet Tim

Please tell us a little bit about yourself – How would you describe your everyday vanilla life?

I'm actually a pretty average person in my vanilla life. My BDSM experiences are all sexually oriented.

When did you first realize you were into bondage?

To be honest, I first became fascinated with bondage (without even really knowing the extent at the time) when I was young and watched an episode of Happy Days (I'm dating myself, but it was a first run episode LOL) where Fonzie was tied to a chair. I don't even remember why within the context of the episode, but given it was Happy Days, for sure it wasn't sexual or submissive... LOL

How you best describe yourself and why? Your choices are: Dominant, Submissive, Switch or Fuzzy Rainbow Unicorn.

Well, I'm definitely not a Fuzzy Rainbow Unicorn. :) Sexually speaking, I associate best with a Switch as, depending upon mood, I'm either submissive or dominant.

Do you feel that your desire for bondage is more physical or emotional? (please elaborate)

Whether I'm dominant or submissive, I always feel bondage to be more physical than emotional. While I understand the psychology on each side, for me, personally, whether I'm being bound or am the one binding, it's all about the physical aspect of being restrained. Also on either side of my desires, I use bondage to create various real physical feelings via the blood constriction associated with tight bondage. Keeping this PG-13, you'll just have to imagine the various body parts I'm referencing... ;)

Were lovers accepting of your interest in bondage?

Some have been, while others haven't.

Please briefly describe your first bondage experience.

Well, I'm not sure how I can do that and remain PG-13 and not overly graphic... LOL Suffice to say, my first bondage experience was actually on myself and involved, shall we say, self CBT... My first bondage experience with someone else, was a simple, straight forward, wrist/ankle cuff restraint on the bed...

What was your best bondage experience?

So far, my best bondage experience was one where I had my submissive restrained while standing with her arms and legs spread. I was able to spank her, tease her, and bring her to her own heights of pleasure all while the only thing she could do was cry out in desperation and pleasure...

What is the most creative safeword you have ever used?

Oh I'm not that creative when it comes to safewords, LOL. Red, Yellow, Green are my standards.

What do you feel is most important about the experience of bondage?

Having already mentioned that it is the physical aspect of bondage that intrigues and excites me, I will say what I feel is most important about bondage is trust - both the trust earned and the trust being given. When you are restrained, it is, to me, the ultimate representation of your submission as you are now relying 100% on the other (Dominant) to take care of you, listen, to you, and watch you to make sure that no harm is caused.

What is the best advice you would give to someone just starting out with BDSM?

My best advice is two-fold: 1) Find out yourself what excites you, interests you, and where your limits may be and whether you want them pushed. Do this as best you can with self exploration or with someone that understand that you are NEW to the whole experience and 2) When you do find someone, make sure they are not only compatible with your goals, interests, limits, etc. but that they are also understand your experience level. Especially if you are submissive, do NOT use that as an excuse for your Dominant to take advantage of you. Yes, you would be submissive to them, but there is still a certain amount of respect that should exist. Too many people think being dominant means you get to be pushy and disrespectful, but it's simply not the case...

What is your favorite gear, toy or lingerie item from sub-shop.com and why?

So, far, I don't have a favorite! I love them all! :)

What is the one sensual fantasy you haven’t lived out yet that you are excited to try?

As of now, I would like to live out a BDSM threesome in two ways: One with another submissive guy and a Domme and another with me and either two submissive women or one submissive woman and a female Switch.

What’s your favorite knock-knock joke?

Knock-knock

Who's there?

Ya who?

Dot Com

What is Eskimo ice?

I have no idea and I'm not going to cheat by googling it! LOL