3 Tips to Rock Your First BDSM Experience

The BDSM world is extremely inviting but it can be overwhelming for beginners who want to taste it all in one bite. You should know this is not how it works at all. BDSM is not just a one-time experience, it is a sexual lifestyle and it can change your entire relationship for the better, especially when it is done right.

The first time you get into BDSM is very important. How your first experience turns out will influence your future in this lifestyle, if you will pursue more intense ones or if you will stop altogether. So it is important to start right to get the best out of it and grow sexually along with your partner. Here are some tips to make your first BDSM experience a great one:

Don’t get too ambitious

Sure, you probably know all the scenes involved in complex bondage systems and role plays, but it doesn’t mean you have to put all of them into practice during your very first time especially if your partner is a beginner too. It is best to take baby steps to enjoy each level of BDSM until you master it so both of you are ready to go to the next one. Stick with the basics such as dildos, vibrators, collars and gags. Leave the edge play for later experiences.

Establish the terms beforehand

Negotiation is a great part of setting up a BDSM scene. It typically involves

talking things through with your partner before actually doing them. See what they are comfortable with and respect this without pushing things to an uncomfortable level.

As long as both of you feel comfortable with what is going on, chances are things will move faster toward a more intense level, especially when you are more familiar with the BDSM practices and toys. The negotiation phase is the perfect time to establish a safety word both of you can use in case things get out of hand while you indulge in all kinds of sexual practices.

Submissive or dominant?

Deciding if you are a submissive or a dominant before you actually start the BDSM scene is crucial. The decision will be the entire basis for your BDSM scene. It will dictate the course of events so make sure you talk with your partner, taking into account your own fantasies and desires to see which role would suit you best.

A BDSM scene should have a dominant and a submissive so you and your partner should be compatible on this aspect. But if you are not sure about what roles you decided for each other, you are always free to switch with one another in the future. So give it a try and see what works best for you!

Rest assured once you master the beginner’s level, you and your partner will have a whole new world of sexual experiences you can try together as couple. You can even experience it in a group sex session or a threesome to see how you enjoy switching partners or having more than one partner at the same time.

Once you set your mind and body free to experiment with all kinds of fetishes then there is no end in sight when it comes to BDSM. Chances are your sexual life will never be boring again! You can choose a theme for your BDSM scenes, like role play and dress up in costumes to make the fantasy as close to reality as possible. A word of advice, it is crucial both you and your partner are into these types of practices and not just one of you. Remember you will need to work as a team. Achieve new levels of sexual pleasure and satisfaction as a team because you cannot accomplish these things on your own.