Preparing for Tantric Sex

Contrary to what you may believe, tantric sex is not about having one intense eight hour sex session. In tantric sessions, sex is actually optional, not mandatory. Tantric sex is something more profound; the practice is all about finding your sexual energy and letting it run free. It is also about relating with your partner and getting to a higher spiritual level owing to this connection. In tantric sessions, sex is actually optional, not mandatory.

If you want to give it a go, you should prepare beforehand so you know what to do. Remember, this should be a fun experience, so take it slow and easy. The first time doesn’t need to be perfect. Just try to have a fun time with your partner! Nonetheless, it should give you an idea of what to expect in the future if this is something you want to continue doing.

The first step to prepare for a tantric sex session is simply to create a space. This translates to ambience. You can light up some scented candles you like, put down some new silk sheets, figure out your lighting and even put on some relaxing music. Make sure to try this without any time restrictions. It is best to figure out a schedule you can both work with so you can explore as much as you want. Oh! Keep some water nearby because you will probably need it.

The next step is clothes. Some people like to practice naked while others are not comfortable being in their birthday suit. If you are uncomfortable, simply put on some nice but comfy clothes. You should be able to move without restrictions. So a corset and thigh-highs are not the best choices at the moment. Tantric practices are all about exposing yourself to your partner, physically and mentally. You might consider taking your clothes off little by little or taking turns undressing each other. If you probably don’t want to push the boundaries too far for the first few times, simply do whatever makes you at ease.

After the ambiance and clothes are settled, the two of you should now sit across each other on the bed. Make eye contact and stare at each other to create synchronization in your breathing. You can sometimes achieve this just by staring each other. The idea is to immerse yourself in your partner and create your own bubble. If at any point you start to feel tense just try to breath calmly until the tension passes.

When the connection is created, you can continue with a soft massage. Afterward follow it up with hot wax, feathers or even use the tails of a whip if you want. The idea is to touch your partner intimately. The feeling heightens the senses and will stimulate you. Remember the goal of tantric sex is to increase sensuality. It is not sex or orgasms, so don’t focus on these.

Later you can move on to the basic position of tantric sex called yab yum. The man sits with his legs crossed while the woman sits on his lap facing him. As you hug one another try to match up your breathing as well. This will strengthen your intimacy. Feel free to kiss deeply and slowly while you are there. All the time, look into each other eyes and savor every sensation of the moment.

If you want to, you can continue to penetrative sex. But if you do feel like trying tantric sex, keep in mind climaxing shouldn’t be your goal, so delay your orgasm as much as you can. Moreover, this shouldn’t be mindlessly thrusting one after the other. Instead, it should be slow and deliberate all throughout. You should also keep your eyes open. Just continue staring at each other to maintain your close connection.