When it comes to being a good dominatrix, there are some things you need to keep in mind. Besides confidence, the right outfit, the props you will use, and a general idea about the scene, your will need the right attitude. And a big part of the right attitude is making sure your sub follows the predetermined rules and guidelines.
Your rules will apply only to you; each dominatrix can have a different set of rules, depending on their personality, play, likes, etc. The important thing when you’re playing is making sure your partner understands those instructions and follows them exactly.
Those rules should be put in place before playtime starts so you two won’t have any misunderstandings. This way, any misconceptions can be solved beforehand and the scene can go smoothly. Some common and necessary rules are:
Doing the talk: A huge aspect of being a dominatrix is holding the control and having the power. In order to make your power known, you should instruct them not to speak. They won’t be able to make a sound or scream, so make sure they don’t. If you want to take it a step further with this, you can always make them wear a gag. This ensures they won’t be able to even make a peep…
What cha’doin?: Another huge aspect of the power dynamic is determining what your submissive can and cannot do. As the dominatrix in the relationship, it will be your job to let them know what they can do. Before you start playing, make sure the activities you want to be engaging in are good for both of you. Set boundaries and limits; just because you’re the dominant doesn’t mean you can make your partner do things they don’t want to do. Once you have cleared all that, instruct them to kiss you or lick you where you feel like it…while other body parts are completely restricted to them wink*.
Express yourself: If you wish, you can also command them to say special things. This is extremely helpful when you’re doing a scene that involves speaking or you feel your scene can benefit from it. But as this is a scene and you’re the boss, you can instruct them to say exactly what you want…
