Meet L

Please tell us a little bit about yourself – How would you describe your everyday vanilla life?

Currently being a student at university, studying for most of the day with part time job on the side. As it is summer right now Im mostly working and trying to earn enough savings to afford high end gear.

When did you first realize you were into bondage?

I think the first time I was exposed to porn, thats what definatly got my interest. Compared to other genres, bondage play always had this "difference". It would underline the womans beauty by restraining her movements and thats what I couldn't wrap my head around: "How can something so vulgar and restraining show a beauty of a human body?"

How you best describe yourself and why? Your choices are: Dominant, Submissive, Switch or Fuzzy Rainbow Unicorn.

I am pretty confident that I am a dominant person. From what my partner told me, I am usually very excited about restraining her in any possible new way. Moreover, I am very protective and careful when it comes to my submissives.

Do you feel that your desire for bondage is more physical or emotional? (please elaborate)

(Already answered the question previously)

What does BDSM mean to you: is it a lifestyle, a diversion, or something else?

At this very moment it is a diversion and a relief. Without I am sure I wouldn't be able to be who I am. It is a huge part of my personal life and I hope that it can be a lifestyle at some point in my future, whether it is work or a hobby.

Were lovers accepting of your interest in bondage?

I did not have that many partners, and only one of them have found themselves embracing the role of my sub and following it.

Please briefly describe your first bondage experience.

My first bondage experience was with one of my partners in Japan. At that time during my trip I bought my first pair of handcuffs as well as a ball gag. Then me amd my partner went to Kyoto, where we had a hotel booked for one night. We had a pleasant night, including all the gear in my possession. And even though I knew that this was probably our last night as lovers, I knew it was the best night that we had together.

What was your best bondage experience?

My best bondage experience was with my current partner and the best way I can possibly describe would be a 3-course meal. Starting with very light appetizer like a salad with small pieces of spiced chicken here and there, followed by an entreé: A medium rare, almost raw steak with a potato side. And finally finish it all off with a filling dessert of ice cream and cheescake covered in whipcream and a cherry on the top. I hope this description is acceptable, as I didnt want to describe every detail of that night, keeping the reader guessing what exactly happened. But I will be more than happy to give you a full description with all the minor details.

What is the most creative safe word you have ever used?

The one and only safe word that I came up with is "crowbar". This word cannot be associates with sex or bondage and if somebody was to say it mid act, it would defiantly mean something is wrong. Thos word is also short enough so that person wouldn't have trouble pronouncing it.

What do you feel is most important about the experience of bondage?

A lot of people will say the position, or attention or safety. But in my opinion all these things can be described in bondage as one word: Trust. If you have trust of your partner, you know for the fact that whatever you do, it will work, and no matter what happens, you will still have affiliation for each other in the end.

What is the best advice you would give to someone just starting out with BDSM?

I will repeat the same concept I have stated in the previous question. It all comes down to trust between partners. Not love or lust. Trust. If two peoplw have trust between each other the affection SM will be unforgettable. Knowing that you are giving up control over ypurself to somebody else is just as intoxicating as any other drug.

What is your favorite gear, toy or lingerie item from sub-shop.com and why?

My favorite item from the website would be either collar or ball gag harness. Both of these items are restraints that affect mind and a specific part of the body, but do not constrain a person from moving. It all comes down to mental dominance. By taking one of the human aspects away, speech for example, it is easier to let the person understand that you are standing above them.

What is the one sensual fantasy you haven’t lived out yet that you are excited to try?

I still had no chance of dominating two subs at the same time. The idea of two different people being in your possession is already allowing your imagination to go on a rollercoaster ride. Would you be more attentive to one than the other. How can you show both of them that you r their master, etc. I hope I wil l get that chance sometime in the future.