Meet James

Please tell us a little bit about yourself – How would you describe your everyday vanilla life?

Well, I’m a combat wounded, disabled vet (though you wouldn’t know it by looking at me because of where I was wounded unless my hair is short or i point it out) I have 3 kids, I’m divorced (it’s a good thing lol) i have my kids half the week every week and they’re with their mother the other half. So single parenting takes a lot of my time. I’m also a biker and ride with a veteran’s motorcycle club. I work out 5 times a week. And I work a couple days a week for something to do (and a lil pocket money never hurts lol)

When did you first realize you were into bondage?

Well, honestly, for as long as I can remember. Even before I knew what bondage was really. I remember being a kid watching cartoons or something where the woman would get captured and tied up by the bad guy and have to be rescued by the hero, but I would always find myself staring at her being tied up. I would also imagine having my girlfriend tied up (this was all before I even knew what sex was) I hadn’t the vaguest idea what to do once I would’ve had her bound but hey i was a kid lol. Back then I always thought there might be something wrong with me, that is until I discovered BDSM when i was about 13. Once i did it all clicked and I started reading everything I could get my hands on (this was before smartphones and everyone having the internet) I didn’t want to just know how, I wanted to know how to do it right. How to be in this world and how not to be abusive (because I have very strong feelings about that, most fights I’ve been in was because some pos hit a female or was bullying some smaller kid) wanted to know about every aspect that I could.

How you best describe yourself? Your choices are: Dominant, Submissive, Switch or FuzzyRainbow Unicorn. Please explain your choice.

I describe myself as a Dominant. Because I enjoy taking the responsibility of the control given to me by my submissive.

Do you feel that your desire for bondage is more physical or emotional? (please elaborate)

I believe it is both physical and emotional, because we are all both physical and emotional beings and physical drives emotional and emotional drives the physical, it’s a circle.

What does BDSM mean to you: is it a lifestyle, a diversion, or something else?

It is a lifestyle. Regardless of how deep you go into it, if you love it, becomes part of your life

Have you ever had sex in three or more positions in one session?

Yes, every time lol

Can you describe your first bondage experience?

Oh, geeze I was 15 and obviously not experienced lol it wasn’t very elaborate or anything. Parents were out of town and my girlfriend was over we started getting hot and heavy and we had talked about bondage and such previously, so it wasn’t like a big shocker when I suggested we try it. It was just a simple wrists tied together and tied to the headboard, but it was great and we played with it together for quite a while after that till we broke up but still remained friends even to this day.

What was your best bondage experience?

My best bondage experience, has to be the first time i got to play in my playroom after getting it set up. Mmmm, floggers, limbs tied and dangling from the ceiling, spreader bars, gags. Oh, years that was an amazing session. 

What and who turns you on?

What and who turns me on? Well, that’s easy, bondage, domination,  i have a very strong fetish for stockings and pantyhose, when my girlfriend (who is also my submissive, yes we’re monogamous) wears them, she knows she’s getting carried to the playroom at some point that day lol. And as for who, well I’m pretty sure it’s obvious but, my  submissive of course lol

Have you ever been so loud having sex that housemates/neighbors commented or complained?

LOL!  Yes! My roommate when i was in the army made comments about it all the time lol

Have you ever brought your partner to orgasm using only your hands?

Yes, in fact. And it is a lot of fun having that much control

Do you like being called dirty names during sex?

I generally do the dirty name calling when who I’m with is into it. Remember a Dom must be even more careful with their words than their hands, a bruised backside can heal in a week a bruised spirit can take a lifetime.

What is the weirdest thing that ever made you horny?

I honestly cannot think of anything weird that made me horny. But then I guess that depends on your definition of weird, some would say seeing a woman in strict bondage would be weird to get horny to. (I’m glad we’re not one of those LOL)

What is the fastest way to ever make you horny?

Fastest way to make me horny? I think I answered that in an earlier comment lol. My woman walking into the room wearing a skirt and stockings and I’m rearing to go lol

Who was the sexiest teacher you ever had?

Sexiest teacher? Didn’t really ever have a sexy teacher lol

What is the best advice you would give to someone just starting out with BDSM?

Best advice?  Research, research, research. That includes talking to people that are in the lifestyle and has some experience. Don’t do Anything that makes you feel too uncomfortable. Before you start playing, make sure the person you’re playing with earns your trust

What is your favorite gear, toy or lingerie item from Sub-Shop.com and why?

Everything I’ve ever ordered from subshop has been great, but the thing that stands out is the bondage orgasm belt that doesn’t cover the naughty bits from the back , it was the only place I found that particular piece.

Is there anything else you would like to share with us such as advice, thoughts or more knock-knock jokes? We are all ears and ball gags.