How to Choose the Perfect Gag to Surprise your Lover

If you are into gags and combining them with other sex toys and accessories in order to achieve a better sexual pleasure, you will want your lover to understand it and join your fantasies! But if you are not with someone who is interested in BDSM fetishes, you might find it hard to introduce a hood to your intimate partner in life. But it’s not impossible. As a matter of fact there are many couples that don’t follow the BDSM community but they still enjoy playing around with gags when they are getting intimate. That means you don’t have to be a hundred percent involved in the bondage community to discover the excitement of wearing a nice hood. And if your lover is not on the same page with you quite yet, here is what you should consider doing in order to help both of you enjoy an intense sex scene with your favourite gag involved!

1. Purchase several models of gags in different colors

If you are not sure what type of gag your lover would prefer, it will be wise to try out several ones first until you both figure out what they are into. If your lover is the one wearing the gag, meaning she is the submissive partner in your relationship, that is just another reason to let her or him have a choice in the matter. Maybe they have a favourite color that you know about? You should purchase at least one gag that comes in that color. Or maybe they are into a certain type of fetish or fantasy such as medical play or pet and pony play? Then you should get them a gag that matches that sexual preference. All these details will come natural to you if you know about them or if you are in a long term relationship with your partner. But if you don’t really know each other that well yet, you can just discuss your options or you can invest in different types of gags just to discover what they like the most.

2. Create a complex sex scene scenario based on your gag

Using a gag is never enough to create a sex scene to remember. So if you want to truly impress your lover and make it harder for them to refuse gag play, you should build a complete sex scene to spice up your intimate experiences. Get your heart set on a fetish that you want to experience and set the atmosphere for it. Play the right music, establish the right light and wear the right outfit. If you are the submissive lover wanting to wear the gag simply do all this and wait for your dominant in the bedroom. They will most likely feel turned on by the entire atmosphere as soon as they lay their eyes on you. If you are the dominant partner, do the same thing but make sure you add some control to the entire sex scene in order to set up the right roleplay vibe for both of you!

3. Add a certain sex toy or more that you know for sure your lover likes to use during sex scenes

Is your lover into spanking or whipping? If so, make sure to add a paddle or their favourite whip or flogger to the sex scene. They will appreciate that you are trying to mix their sexual needs with yours. This will make your partner a lot more willing to give your gag fetish a fair try knowing that they can enjoy their favourite fetish as well while you are at it. Mutual satisfaction is essential in a relationship and you shouldn’t neglect this even if you are trying to go for a quickie. Always make sure that your sex scene provides the sexual satisfaction that both of you are aiming for and it is safe, sane and consensual for everyone involved in it. If you are into BDSM fetishes and fantasies, more likely than not you are familiar with this type of rule but not all couples know how to implement it right. Safety should always come first even if you are both enrolled in a race to rich incredible orgasms.

You might be surprised to see that there is not just one perfect gag for you and your lover. The more you dive into such fetishes, the more you will discover that there are many gags to try out and enjoy and you might even find several favorite ones. And if you keep an open mind you can count on the fact that your sex life will never be boring again and you will stay away from that routine that can severely damage your relationship!