Tips and Tricks for Bondage and Gags

He’s blindfolded, he’s handcuffed to the bedposts, his legs are spread wide open...what’s missing? You guessed it! A ball gag in his mouth, so he doesn’t have any choice but to take your orders while you have some kinky fun with him. But not just any ball gag will do, so here are some tips and tricks on picking out the perfect gag for your next bondage session.

5 Things to Consider When Choosing Your Ball Gag

You might be into hardcore BDSM; then again, maybe you’re not. Maybe leather straps aren’t your thing; maybe PVC isn’t either. It doesn’t matter: Regardless of what kind of playtime you like to engage in, I think everyone needs a ball gag in their toy box. They’re just too much fun to pass up—plus, they can bring out even more kinky things in us all. Here are some tips on choosing one that fits your style perfectly.

Tip #1: Get Comfortable with Your Decision. Before committing to buy a gag, give yourself enough time to experiment with each potential option so you’ll know which one will work best for you. This may seem overly cautious to some, but there’s nothing worse than being excited about finally owning an adult toy, only to have buyer's remorse set in once it arrives at your door.

Tip #2: Think About Material. One of my favorite aspects of gags is how unique every single one is, depending on who made it and why. Some people prefer heavy-duty vinyl, while others swear by leather. Some love silicone, while others say it’s not strong enough to provide real bondage/restraint value. The options are endless! There are plenty of color options out there as well—I personally love black. Black goes with everything.

Tip #3: Choose Between Adjustable and Non-Adjustable Gags. Consider where you’ll be using your gag before choosing between adjustable and non-adjustable models. If you plan on doing anything particularly active while wearing your gag (think working out, having rough sex), then go with adjustable since it should stay firmly in place no matter what activity you do while using it. However, if you’re looking for something easy to take off and put back on quickly without fumbling around trying to loosen or tighten buckles, then a non-adjustable gag is probably better suited for your needs.

Tip #4: Weigh Comfort Against Cost. While it shouldn't be your main concern when deciding which gag to purchase, comfort does factor in heavily here—especially if you intend on using yours quite frequently. Luckily, many of today’s gag manufacturers make sure theirs are body safe and comfortable to wear for extended periods of time. But, like in tip #1, make sure you try out a few different kinds beforehand to see which type you feel most comfortable with. Safety always comes first, even when it comes to pleasure toys.

Tip #5: Know How to Use Your Gag Properly & Safely. When purchasing a gag, it’s also important to consider how you’re going to use it. Just like condoms, not all toys are created equal. Every toy has specific guidelines for safety and proper usage; learn these before using your new toy—you wouldn’t want to accidentally damage it or hurt yourself because you weren’t familiar with its material composition and care needs.

Different Kinds of Gags

When you’re looking at a range of gags, remember that there are different kinds out there. The most popular of these will probably be ball gags, which work by placing a ball in your submissive’s mouth, behind their teeth. This is a more restrictive gag, so if you’re aiming to tie up your partner more heavily, or want to have more control over how they can speak or express themselves during play, then a ball gag might be perfect for you. If you are planning on introducing bondage into your sex life, bondage tape makes an excellent tool for tying your lover down gently—you don’t need any special equipment beyond what comes with it. Beyond ball gags, there are other types of gags too; bell-shaped gags, dildo gags... The possibilities go on! If you’re interested in adding props into your sex life, starting small with something like a blindfold or restraints can make all the difference.