Collars FAQ

Collars are many things… a lovely decoration, a symbol of submission, a symbol of ownership, a wonderful place to attach lots of lovely things to.

There are lots of different kinds, types, sizes and materials of collars out there. I carry cloth, leather, vinyl and steel styles from simple to extravagant. From those loaded with hardware to delicate, pretty public collars to strict trainers and posture collars.

How do I know which collar is right for me or my sub?

Simply by making choice based on fit, use and desirability. The first is obviously desirability. When you’ve found a collar you like, check to make sure it will fit you or your sub by checking the size range listed with every collar.

Then comes the fun part — what will you be using this for?

If you want to attach cuffs, clamps, leashes or all sorts of other things to it, get a collar like my collars that have lots of rings or attachment points. For a dressy collar, I like simply wearing them as a fashion.

For public wear, my usual everyday collar is the Princess collar. Sometimes the Handmaiden or Bound Beauty collars and more stict collars when I’m wearing a turtleneck too! It’s our sexy secret (except when the rings jingle too much!) The Kinky Kitten, Precious and Dainty Ring collars are great public collars and I have many spiked collars for gothic loving souls to wear anywhere!

Personally, I have a lot of collars as you can see by my pages! You’ll probably end up with a few before long, so let your imagination run wild and decide what you want most of all! See my selection of collars here!

What’s the best kind of collar for a collaring ceremony?

This is a question I get a lot. Naturally, this is a very personal choice, but when people ask me what type of collar is preferred in a collaring ceremony, I typically tell them just that — which is your personal choice? The types & styles of collars I like are the more decorative collars, but many like to choose a collar they’ll wear every day. The Glamour collar is a very pretty choice as is the Cascade Chain collar. The most important thing is that it’s special to you.

What is a Collaring Ceremony?

The collaring ceremony is another thing I get quite a few questions about. Again, varies as widely as those performing it. Some do it in a group, others as a couple. Do what feels right. Master did my formal collaring as an impromptu session long after we had been together when he felt the time was right. It was beautiful because it was special to us and that’s all that matters. Whether presented over dinner or to a naked and bound slave, (or both! *g*) it’s a beautiful thing that will give you treasured memories.

What’s a posture collar?

A posture collar is a collar that is typically at least two inches tall, but usually 3–5 inches tall. They are designed to keep the head and chin up thereby giving the look of strict, formal posture. Some are stiffer than others, some are softer, some are taller than most and some are «starter» collars that offer you the look of a posture collar in a much easier to wear item. Some have tapered fronts or sides to allow for more comfort around the shoulders and under the chin. I’ve created a list according to stiffness, collar height, material and level of strictness or wearability to help you choose the best collar for you or your sub below. Look for posture collars here!

How do I choose a posture collar correctly for my size or my sub?

There are many factors to decide what type of collar to choose for your sub or yourself. Beginners would probably not want to leap directly into the largest, most strict posture collar I offer (then again you might *g*).  Look for posture collars here!