Meet D.A.

Please tell us a little bit about yourself – How would you describe your everyday vanilla life?

Monotonous. Anxiety ridden. Extreme pressure to perform in all aspects. Commission sales job and I’m good at it. Taking care of 3 kids and a spouse.

When did you first realize you were into bondage?

2016 when I was secured to a spanking bench during a play party by a Dom named Frankie. He awaked a dormant part of me that I believe was there since my teenage years.  

How you best describe yourself? Your choices are: Dominant, Submissive, Switch or FuzzyRainbow Unicorn. Please explain your choice.

Baby slave and unicorn. I have had this desire to serve and also be nurtured and cared for. It has driven me in my life unconsciously. To be subservient and worshipful but at the same time being cared for in a way that makes me feel safe and secure to let go my “normal” life. I’m a unicorn because I am so rare. I am an alpha in my vanilla life (strong alpha)…yet my need to be made low and used is so great. I wish I could live in a world like the Handmaid’s Tale.

Do you feel that your desire for bondage is more physical or emotional? (please elaborate)

Both. I need to be tethered to my Daddy/Master both physically and mentally in order to be successful as His slave. I desire the freedom to let go and just be mentally and also the bite of the ropes or other tools that restrain me from moving physically. The bondage focuses me in ways that no other meds or therapy could/can do. My trust of myself and my Daddy/Master makes me beg at times to be restrained for my own good.

What does BDSM mean to you: is it a lifestyle, a diversion, or something else?

This is my life, so much more than a lifestyle. We live this every day. We are not just playing or having making scenes (although we do that as well) we are living this 24/7.

Name one actor/actress you would love to get naughty with?

Channing Tatum

Can you describe your first bondage experience?

The first few minutes were awkward for me. I didn’t know what I was supposed to do. He unfurled the rope, getting it into position. I quickly discovered my job was to stand still in the position he placed me in. This proved difficult. I shifted my weight from foot to foot. My arms swung at my sides. When he lightly smacked me in warning, heat pooled between my thighs. As his hands worked around my body, his fingers glancing off the sensitive skin between my legs or around my breasts, I shivered with desire. Oh yes, I thought, this would be OK.

What was your best bondage experience?

Being strung up and bound and gagged in Daddy/Master's garage. Being locked into The Stockade and being completely exposed and then having a ball gag put in my mouth and the spreader bar with my cuffs around my wrist it was all such a scene and such a glorious process and such an insane turn on…my mind was racing. I felt apprehensive and I felt nervous and I felt scared but when the ball gag goes in my mouth, and cuffs lock, I feel a sense of peace and calm come over me. Every time.

I knew that my ass was completely exposed and my lower back and the back of my thighs will completely be exposed and I was trembling already and we hadn't even started... I don't remember a whole lot of this part because I think I was just so far gone by the time I got to the bed and you laid me down on my tummy... I remember Daddy/Master smacking me many times with the skinny Cain and I remember not hardly moving at all and I remember His words to me and His hands on me and when He would climb on top of me and rub my ass and lick it and kiss it tell me what a good girl I am for Him... I remember feeling so Heavenly and floating in those moments with you. It was surreal. It was enchanting. I wanted more and more. The big, ruddy cane was tough to endure... It was very tough to endure and I need Him to know that I endured to the degree that I did solely because I know that I can trust Him and that He will get me through it. And He did.

What and who turns you on?

Daddy/Master... possessive, sweet, proud, horny, Dominant Daddy! Petite/tattooed girls

Would you rather be cute or sexy?

I'd rather be whichever Daddy/Master desires at any given time. But I do enjoy being both for Him.

What is the strangest thing you have ever eaten?

Escargot...and Daddy's ass...yummy!

What’s your kinky fetish?

Being stretched? Beaten? Daddy's piss? Throat fucked? Being loved so wholeheartedly that I'm floaty and emotionally secure?

Do you prefer doing it in the dark or in the light?

I prefer what Daddy/Master prefers. I don’t have a preference.

What do you feel is most important about the experience of bondage?

The emotional attachment being stronger than the physical. Otherwise, it's just a fetish. Not that anything is wrong with that I just enjoy being bond mind, body and soul.

What is the best advice you would give to someone just starting out with BDSM?

Never say never. And try everything at least twice. You don’t know what you like or don’t like until you actually try it. It takes courage and vulnerably and trust but if you’re willing to explore you will learn more about yourself and your limits and possibilities you never dreamed of.

What is your favorite gear, toy or lingerie item from Sub-Shop.com and why?

Full body latex. Including hood. The sheer intensity of being squeezed and held in place by a full body suit is such a turn on. Not knowing and trusting my Daddy/Master with my security and safety is liberating.

What is the one sensual fantasy you haven’t lived out yet that you are excited to try?

A. Having Daddy/Master make His friends pay to use me. Then Daddy/Master takes all that money and spoils me rotten, takes me shopping for something totally unnecessary and indulgent and out for drinks and dancing like we used to do.

B. Being stretched during a scene where I'm sexually massaged, gradually beaten, wax play, nipple torture, etc. Fucked while being stuffed/stretched and then babies and fed by Daddy/Master for the rest of the weekend.

Is there anything else you would like to share with us such as advice, thoughts or more knock-knock jokes? We are all ears and ball gags.