When you discover a new sexual fantasy or fetish, no doubt your first thought is to include it into your sex life with your partner. But this may not happen as naturally as you would like or imagine. Indeed, many couples find it difficult to introduce new sexual desires into their sex routine. Fear of judgment and a lack of confidence are often the reasons behind this difficulty. However, employing certain strategies will help you overcome your fears and allow you to experience your deepest fantasies with your partner without concern. Keep in mind you and your lover are a team. So, you should talk about everything to satisfy each otherβs needs. When you do then your relationship can avoid the chances of meaningless cheating episodes. Here is how you can introduce a new fetish to your partner and the best way to enjoy it together!
1. Buy the right toys and accessories
The best fetishes and fantasies can also be the most complex to carry out. It might require you to have certain sexual devices to fulfill them. But it might not be a bad idea. What if you talk with your partner about your new fantasy but they do not seem as into it as you are then you might try introducing them to specific sex toys related to it. For instance, if you want to try bondage games then buy a rope, a pair of handcuffs or a fancy collar to use on your next sexual encounter. Such sex toys could spark your partnerβs curiosity and imagination. Chances are it will make them want to try them with you in the bondage game you proposed. Make it a point to buy sex toys and accessories in their favorite color. But make sure it is made of quality material to make them more attractive to your partner. The market offers a variety of sex items you can use for any type of fantasy you might have. Then again, use your imagination to adapt any sex toy you buy to whatever type of sexual encounter you desire.
2. Set up the atmosphere
Sex toys are not the only things you can use to convince your partner to join you on a new sexual adventure. You also need to set up the right atmosphere to make it more appealing. Arrange your bedroom in a romantic way. Light scented candles and play sexy music to get both of you in the right mood. Sometimes this is all it takes for a successful sex scene to happen! So donβt underestimate the power of the small details when you plan to lure your partner into your fantasy realm. You can also find some erotic videos to watch together. Doing so will give your partner a definite idea of your naughty sexual desires and put you on the same wavelength to explore them together. Sometimes these things are more effective than a thousand words and explanations can ever be.
3. Take it one step at a time
You have to be ready in case your partner does not oblige you at once when it comes to experiencing a new sexual fetish or fantasy. This does not mean they are not into it at all. Rather, they might not ready for the level of intensity you are aiming for. Even so, you still have a chance to experience the sexual encounter you want as long as you are willing to take it down a notch to where both of you are comfortable. For instance, if you are into impact play you can reduce your force while spanking or whipping your partner at the start. When you are both ready then increase it to the next level and after if you both want. This is best when it comes to enjoying a new fetish together so you can be comfortable every step of the way. It is also best to communicate with your partner to find common ground from where you can experience an intense orgasm from the new fetish.