Part of having a happy and healthy relationship is being able to understand each other and know each other at a deepest level. However, at times it might be hard to be honest about our sexual fantasies and preferences especially when we get interested into something new. We might fear how our partner will react if we open up and share our fetishes with them and, in extreme cases, we might even fear that they will leave us or change their opinion about us. We live in a judgmental society and how can we know our partner is not one of those judgmental people that we fear to face? And, maybe, your partner has the same fears like you! But what if you could guess your partnerβs sexual preferences and surprise him with an amazing fantasy? Here are some tips that will give you a clue if your partner is into BDSM practices!
1. They like when you talk dirty in bed
Talking dirty in bed might be a common practice for many couples around the world even if they are into BDSM or not. But, if you notice your partner gets so much more excited when you talk dirty to them or if you notice they say kinky things right before they are about to reach an orgasm, it might be a great sign of a BDSM fantasy or fetish that they secretly have! Dirty talk and verbal humiliation can be combined with so many BDSM scenes and sexual encounters and if they jump right to verbal humiliation, the sign that they like such intense scenes is even more defined! Reciprocate and satisfy their dirty talk desire and maybe they will get brave and share even more than that with you!
2. They spank you out of the blue
Spanking doesnβt necessarily require a special paddle like BDSM professionals use. Sometimes the bare hands of your partner might be quite effective. They might spank you during sex or they might spank you randomly around the house! If this happens quite often, you know what to get them for their next birthday: a paddle! Or you can even go deeper and get them a whip or a flogger if you suspect that they are really into this kind of impact play. And there is nothing sexier than an intense impact play that can lead to even better BDSM encounters! Chances are your partner will be charmed by your sense of observation and they will start using the gift that you give them right away. And you will simply love it!
3. They like leather outfits
Yes, we all like a nice leather skirt or a nice leather jacket. You might say that this is not necessarily a sign of your partner being into BDSM fetishes. But, have you noticed how much more excited they get while you wear a sexy skirt made of leather or maybe leather underwear and bra? If you did, exploit the aspect because it might just be more than a leather fetish there! Even if a leather fetish alone is very popular among the BDSM community, most often than not such fetishes are associated with other BDSM practices. Many dominators love when their slave is wearing leather and so do many submissive partners. You are still to discover what kind of role suits your partner best but getting more sexual when they see leather outfits and accessories is definitely a great sign and you can work your way up from there easily!
All these signs combined together are a sure clue that your partner is really curious about BDSM fetishes and practices and all you have left to do is prepare a surprise BDSM scene for them. They will love the surprise and they will let you into their kinky world instantly! Get your sexual arsenal and start preparing!