If you are a BDSM enthusiast you most likely know all the benefits of a good bondage scene. And you might be familiar with using a gag in order to enrich your sexual encounters even more. There are many types and models of gags on the market and they all have one common purpose: to prevent the wearer from speaking and having opinions during a sex scene. This gives the dominant partner the illusion of control over their submissive but also the feeling of power that can translate into an intense sexual satisfaction. But it also requires some modifications to the usual sexual rules that you and your lover might apply. For instance, you will find having a safe word pretty useless as long as your partner is wearing a mouth gag. They will not be able to voice the safe word during your sex scene and this damages the entire safety aspect of a sexual encounter.
Because the safe word becomes a little bit useless in such a sexual encounter, you will have to replace it with something different that can still be performed, such as a safe action. For instance, you can establish beforehand that when your slave gets uncomfortable or feels in a position that doesn’t allow them to reach pleasure, she can raise a leg or a hand or do any other gesture in order to let you know that they are not feeling the sexual pleasure you expect them to. Feel free to get as creative as you want when you are enjoying such a sex scene!
It is very important to keep everything that is performed during a BDSM scene, under the common norm of safe, sane and consensual actions in order for both partners involved to reach an intense orgasm by the end of the scene. Always make sure that you and your lover are on the same page regarding the sexual encounter, before you actually get involved in it. As for the safe action that will replace the safe word, here’s a few occasions in which this decision might prove to be extremely useful!
1. If one of you is not comfortable and doesn’t feel pleasure
If you are not both enjoying what is going on between the two of you, things should take a turn to a more positive direction, that will provide a better outcome. And since using the safe word for the submissive partner will not be an option as long as they are not able to speak, a safe action will be extremely functional to make sure that you can still communicate. Not being comfortable implies also risks that might come up especially during bondage scenes, a position that restricts comfort and even the inability to get interested or maintain the interest towards the sex scene. All these aspects are not a part of a successful sex scene and they should be avoided and corrected.
2. If one of you has an idea regarding a new fetish you want to try out during the sex scene
Similarly, there is the possibility of your submissive having an exciting idea regarding the sex scene hat you are both involved in. And they should be able to voice it so when hey use the safe action you established, remove their gag and see what is all about. You might be amazed and your partner’s spontaneous idea might make everything a lot better if you both give it a try! This is a fairly common situation during most intense sexual encounters!
3. If you need a break for whatever reason
There are times when one of you will need a break and that is completely understandable, especially if you like long and intense sessions of intercourse or sexual stimulation. Having a safe action in place will help your submissive lover let you know when they need to take a break before you both continue that race for orgasms. Breaks during sex can be good and even help you have a more intense orgasm at the end of your sexual encounter.
As you can see, there are some important reasons to always have either a safe word or a safe action in place. This can come very handy and it is also one of the main rules when it comes to BDSM couples. Don’t be afraid to voice out your concerns and reach an understanding with your lover because unless you both know your limits, you will find it hard to reach the type of sexual satisfaction that you want. Being open is essential for the success of any type of sex scene and relationship in general. So, grab your hood and gag and have some fun!
