Why Couples Should Bring Anal Play to Their Sex Life

In the BDSM community, anal play and anal fetishes are highly appreciated by both submissives and dominants. Each one uses their imagination to find new ways to please themselves and their partners by inducing more sexual stimulation.

Anal play is practiced in almost all BDSM relationships— from beginners to those who engage in edge play and torture play. The most common toys and accessories used in anal games are dildos, anal beads, vibrators and butt plugs. But these can be used in all kinds of relationships not necessarily the BDSM ones. Yet as part of a BDSM scene, anal games can reach a different intensity, something more exciting and engaging for both partners. Many want to try anal games of all sorts but they are afraid of how much it is going to hurt. Here is where lube comes in to save the party. If you are a beginner in this kind of sexual stimulation, make sure to start small. Use fingers and small dildos along with lube until you are used to the feeling a good anal play should make you experience.

A great anal play is erotic spanking and it is perfect for beginners into BDSM. Erotic spanking is the act of spanking another person with the goal of sexually stimulating them. Most of the time it involves the use of a paddle or other similar toys to increase the generated pleasure and pain. Such a fetish allows both partners to get used to such a game and find a common sexual rhythm. In BDSM, the act of spanking is performed by the dominant on the submissive. It can be so intense to lead to a high sexual stimulation culminating in an orgasm. On the other hand, it can be part of foreplay leading to something even more intense like whipping. Sometimes, the submissive wears a spanking skirt or a spanking pair of pantyhose to add to the sexual energy of the BDSM scene and to visually please their dominant.

When it comes to “spanking friendly” outfits the sky is the limit. When both partners are somewhat used to the idea and the practice of anal play, the submissive can be introduced to more serious things like bigger dildos or larger butt plugs to keep inside their ass during the BDSM scene and sometimes during sexual intercourse with their dominant. This kind of practice on a female submissive has the effect of making their pussy tighter. Therefore, it is more appealing for the dominant to “use”. Anal games are very exciting for men as well. Some even prefer a dildo in their ass while they are having vaginal sex with their partner because it also stimulates them. Others are a big fan of prostate stimulators — a device used to generate a lot of sexual pleasure by stimulating the prostate through the ass.

If you are new to BDSM then you might also be new to anal stimulation. But once you set your fears aside and get the right lube, you will discover a new level of sexual satisfaction. Talk to your partner and see what they think about such a practice to make sure you have what it takes to set the scene for an unforgettable BDSM experience. Anal games, especially at the beginning, require a lot of communication between the partners involved. Since none of you knows each other’s limits in this case, it is important to take baby steps to see how far you can go each time. Remember, it is a gradual kind of experience. But if you do it right from the beginning then you will become an expert at it in no time. One thing is for sure— sex is never going to be the same after you learn you can explore anal sexual pleasure at the same time with vaginal pleasure.