Meet Grace

Please tell us a little bit about yourself – How would you describe your everyday vanilla life?

I am graduating college this May (due to the virus my graduation is pushed back to October). I’m currently living with my parents while looking for a job. I would describe my life right now as a bit boring; I do house chores, cook sometimes, read, and play video games. Without the pandemic, I would be out hanging with my friends and going to see my horse Scout. The best advice she can give to beginners is to go online and research things yourself, see what you like and what you doing. Start at the very basics and don’t jump into the advanced stuff just yet.

When did you first realize you were into bondage?

My boyfriend is very into it, I’m still learning new things but it would be about two-three years ago I realized it.

How you best describe yourself? Your choices are: Dominant, Submissive, Switch or FuzzyRainbow Unicorn. Please explain your choice.

Definitely submissive but I am trying to be dominant for my boyfriend.

Do you feel that your desire for bondage is more physical or emotional? (please elaborate)

It is more physical, I like the thought of being tied up and someone having control over me and stopping me from reaching a “peak” if you know what I mean ;) lol.

What does BDSM mean to you: is it a lifestyle, a diversion, or something else?

My mindset right now just makes me think it’s fun things to do and to try. I know it sounds boring but I’m not really engulfed in the lifestyle, it however does add another level of intimacy but it is hard when you and your boyfriend life in different states.

What is one song you’d like to have sex to?

Uhhhhh I have never had sex… yet I am waiting till marriage.

Can you describe your first bondage experience?

My boyfriend wanted to see how I would handle being tied up; it was fun until he hogtied me then pretended to walk away. It was funny. We do play with collars a lot and handcuffs, we haven’t played around as much as we both want too due to not seeing each other a lot.

What was your best bondage experience?

^ above lol

What do you feel is most important about the experience of bondage?

It needs to be consensual and safe for me at least. I am still new to everything so I going slow helps.

What is the best advice you would give to someone just starting out with BDSM?

Go online and research things yourself, see what you like and what you doing. Start at the very basics, don’t jump into the advanced stuff just yet. I don’t go to my friends for help because I know more than they do about this topic, they come to me haha.

What is your favorite gear, toy or lingerie item from Sub-Shop.com and why?

I really enjoy the cages for my boyfriend, enjoy the bullet vibrator, and normal vibrators. I haven’t really bought anything recently, in like a year lol I need to fix that lol. I enjoy the cages because it makes my boyfriend want me even more. Love the bullet vibrator because we can play around with it from a few feet away. Normal vibrators are old reliable they are and will always be amazing.

Is there anything else you would like to share with us such as advice, thoughts or silly knock-knock jokes? We are all ears and ball gags.

You know what is funny? After telling my friends at college about some of the stuff and making them take the BDSM test, they wanted to check my room and see if they could find a secret sex swing in the college dorms lol. I also helped my hometown friends with buying vibrators in store because they were nervous. For both friends though I did share the website with them and now they almost all use it I think.