As BDSM sex-play progresses, couples may want to experiment with more physical and dramatic positions. They can then incorporate various elements of BDSM—from spanking and erotic torture to force fantasies and sex toys—into these novel positions to make their BDSM experience new with every encounter. The following is a handful of bondage positions to strike a sexy balance between naughty and nice.
The Hogtie Position
Despite its unfortunate name, the hogtie position is a classic bondage position where the submissive’s arms and legs are bound together, behind the back, usually with rope or wrist and ankle cuffs. This position should be reserved for flexible people only. Ropes should be tied lightly, ensuring quick and easy release if the submissive indicates he or she wants to be released. The hogtie position offers an ideal way to set the scene for a force fantasy.
The Leapfrog Position
This is a raunchy position where the submissive is restrained in a more or less doggy-style position, with his or her buttocks in the air and face on the bed. The submissive’s legs may be held open with a leg-spreader bar, while the wrists may be bound with rope or cuffs and the arms slipped under the upper body.
The leapfrog position is the perfect complement to spanking as it allows direct access to the entire buttock area. It also facilitates anal play and anal sex, with or without sex toys.
In the case of a male dominant and female submissive, this position accommodates rear-entry sexual intercourse. It provides an enticing visual for a man while positioning a woman’s backside in such a way to make penetration and thrusting feel wonderful. Even better, it provides a risqué position for cunnilingus.
The Over-Arm Tie
In this bondage position, the submissive’s arms are extended up over their shoulders, and then the hands are tied behind the head with ropes or cuffs. The dominant may wish to spice up this position by attaching a rope to the wrists, running it down the submissive’s back, and securing it at the waist. If the submissive is sitting on her or his legs, the dominant can also extend a rope from the wrists to each of the submissive’s ankles, so the legs are also restrained.
The openness of the over-arm tie exposes the sensitive stretches of skin along the body, from the underarm area to the hips, thus accommodating tickling. It also provides a striking visual of the submissive who looks and feels completely vulnerable.
Elbow Bondage
To achieve this versatile position, the dominant pulls both of the submissive’s arms behind his or her back and binds them at the elbows. However, not many people might be able to achieve elbow contact. Perhaps only the flexible submissives will be able to join their arms tightly at the elbows. So, the dominant should ensure the rope is as strict or as slack as their submissive prefers. It may also help to secure the submissive’s wrists with rope or cuffs to help them maintain this position.
Elbow bondage has the effect of pushing the breasts forward and out. So, if the submissive is female then her male dominant can exploit the full canvas of her breasts by tickling them or by licking or sucking the areolae and nipples with his mouth. He can also use nipple toys like clamps or stimulating gels, to maximize the erotic stimulation of this highly sensitive area.
The Frogtie Position
In this revealing position, each of the submissive’s legs is bent and bound at the ankle and thigh. So his or her legs vaguely resemble the bent legs of a sitting frog. An easy alternative to do is to sit the submissive on the bed, bend each leg up, and then wrap a length of rope around it to keep it in place. When both legs are tied like this and then spread apart, the submissive’s genitals are completely exposed, thus making it the perfect restraint position for a number of BDSM activities including the use of glass toys and temperature play. The wrists can be bound behind the back with rope or cuffs.
In the case of a male dominant and a female submissive, the dominant may wish to use a rabbit vibrator or other sex toy on his submissive’s genitals, providing her with both clitoral and vaginal stimulation while restrained in the frogtie position. He can replicate this double-the-pleasure sensation by gently “brushing” her clitoris with the tip of an electric vibrator while sliding a finger in and out of her vagina at the same time.
A female dominant can also dish out intense BDSM pleasures to her male submissive while she has him in the frogtie position. She can perform fellatio or lower her body onto his erection, thus using him for her own pleasure when he cannot resist her.