Please tell us a little bit about yourself – How would you describe your everyday vanilla life?
I’m a normal office worker, it’s pretty boring for most people, but it works for me.
When did you first realize you were into bondage?
I was actually introduced to it by an ex. We were having sex and she wanted me to be a bit rough with her? So we started with spanking, hair pulling, and those simple stuff. I enjoyed it so much that I suggested that we add a few more accessories to the sex. I knew what kink and fetish was by then, but I never thought to try it, so after that event I began to research and delve more into the bondage scene.
How you best describe yourself and why? Your choices are: Dominant, Submissive, Switch or Fuzzy Rainbow Unicorn.
I’m a Dom. I love taking control of any situation, really. Even during sex, I love seeing my partners lose control because of what I’m doing to them. I also love the process of it, you know? It’s like crafting, and the human body, your canvas. The orgasms that you get out of it is definitely a huge plus, of course.
Do you feel that your desire for bondage is more physical or emotional? (please elaborate)
Both, but a huge part is emotional. Not only for my partners, but for myself. As I’ve said, I do love the process of the whole thing. Even simple handcuffs or blindfolds makes me excited! More so when I do more complicated things, like doing rope bondage and such. But, the anticipation and suspense, and of course, the trust between the parties is a vital part of every scene.
Were lovers accepting of your interest in bondage?
Most of them are willing to do a little bit of bondage with me, but nothing more than that. Mostly just to add some spice into our sex life, but if I offer more, they usually turn me down. So I was very fortunate and grateful to the forces of the universe that I found my current boyfriend. He’s very accepting of my bisexuality and dominant tendencies even outside the bedroom.
Please briefly describe your first bondage experience.
I just finished an enjoyable first round of sex with the ex-girlfriend that I’ve mentioned before, when she suggested that we do something rougher. I asked what she had in mind, and she said that she wanted me to try hair-pulling and such. I remember thinking to myself, ‘why not?’, since it’s just for fun, and I hear that it makes sex more exciting. I enjoyed that session so much, that I was the one who suggested tying her hands the next time we had sex. It was a really eye-opening event for me.
What was your best bondage experience?
I think it would be the first time I used a few different bondage gear at the same time. They were a few of the hot pink leather bondage gear that I ordered from your site! I was already with my boyfriend at the time, and we wanted to try out more and test his limits. It was the first time I used bondage gear not just for sex, but also for aesthetic purposes, and I must say, it really adds a touch of playfulness to sex that makes every scene more exciting. Not to mention that my boyfriend looks so good in hot pink leather! I have a lot of beautiful pictures of him from that session!
What is the most creative safe word you have ever used?
Frapuccino! My lover and I love coffee – and are a bit of a snob about them – and hate how most people like them sweet and with a lot of cream. Saying that word would really get my attention when we’re deep into a scene.
What do you feel is most important about the experience of bondage?
The atmosphere. It really won’t work if you don’t know how to create the atmosphere in a scene. Whether it’s playful or something more serious, you have to know that your partner is in the right mood or mindset to go through the whole thing. It won’t be fun otherwise.
What is the best advice you would give to someone just starting out with BDSM?
Be observant and make sure that you know what you want. Or if you don’t know what you want, there’s really no harm in asking questions. Research is an important thing to do if you’re a beginner in anything, really.
What is your favorite gear, toy or lingerie item from sub-shop.com and why?
It varies really, I love a few things that I’ve gotten from your shop. But my Sub and I recently got into pain play, and we are loving this particular paddle that I’ve got from sub-shop. It’s called the Hearts on Fire Bondage Paddle. We’re having fun trying out the places where I can make heart-shaped bruises to decorate his body with!
What is the one sensual fantasy you haven’t lived out yet that you are excited to try?
For some reason, we haven’t tried public play yet. A vibrating butt plug would be nice, while me and my little one is out. Maybe while watching a movie or something, so I can whisper dirty things to him while he’s squirming in his seat. It’s making me excited just thinking about it! I might suggest that as soon as I get home after this interview!
When was the last time you bought something? What was it?
It was a can of tomato paste, I forgot to buy some ‘cause I was planning on cooking some pasta for me and my boyfriend for the weekend.
Do you like dogs or cats?
I love both! I love animals of all kinds, since I was young, I’ve always been fascinated by them, even the ones most people would think are scary. I love the little space in between the lips of a snake, where their tongue pokes out? It looks so cute when their mouths are closed!