7 Proven Ways to Fun, Fearless Bondage Sex

There's nothing I love more than a good chat about bondage sex. Well, maybe a little role play of some bondage sex with my lover. But other than that, nothing better.

Even the mildest of kinky people, or the most conservative, can enjoy bondage. It's an easy way to add some spice in the bedroom and engage in role play without going past your own comfort zone. In fact, many people do not consider themselves to be into BDSM, but still enjoy bondage sex quite a bit.

Why wouldn't they? It's amazing!

The problem is that people are a little nervous about the idea. Some people are nervous about even approaching the idea. They aren't sure how to go about it, and they are almost afraid of it. But you don't have to be timid. Bondage sex can be some of the most amazing sex that you will ever have. And you can do so with fun and without fear. How?

1. Communicate with your partner

The very most important part of any sexual relationship is communication. How's he going to know that you want to try bondage if you don't tell him? If you are intimate with someone you have to be able to share your likes and dislikes. Explore the topic. Tell him what interests you and what you aren't willing to try. Discuss your options.

2. Trust

One of the biggest fears that surrounds bondage sex is fear itself. Will it hurt? Will you be okay? Will you be scared? These are almost always alleviated by simply being with someone you trust. You don't typically want to try bondage with a stranger that you are having a fling with. You won't feel secure. But with a partner you love and trust, enjoy the hell out of it.

3. Get the supplies

Bondage is one of those things that differ greatly from couple to couple. Some people prefer handcuffs, some like to use scarves to tie their partner up loosely. The choices that you make will depend on you, your taste, and your comfort level. Don't just order something and call it good. Go to the store with your partner. Explore your options. Try some things on. Especially if you use items that do not tie and instead have a closure. Make sure they fit and don't hurt too badly.

4. Set up the time

You don't want to be tied to the bed if you are in a hurry or have kids running around awake. Unless you know they won't bother you, it could be bad. Give yourself plenty of time to explore.

5. Discuss the rules

Because bondage sex is a part of BDSM, its important to establish beforehand what is and isn't allowed. Will there be gagging? Will there be a blindfold? Establishing rules helps ease you into it.

6. Role Play

Being bound isn't nearly as fun if you don't add a little spice to it. Although I'd rather be bound anyday. You want to create a role. This doesn't mean you have characters, unless you want them. But even if the role is of your partner binding you and then teasing you and refusing to allow you to touch him. Create a mood and a role play setting and act it out.

7. Have fun

While there are a lot of things you can incorporate or plan into bondage sex, the most important is fun. If you worry about technicalities the entire time, it will be hard to enjoy. Relax. Feel the sensations. Notice what you like and don't like. Talk about it later. But just let go and let yourself live in the moment.