Top Answers to Your Strap On Questions

These days, pegging or a woman anally penetrating her heterosexual male partner is quite common. At first you may be a little taken aback by this whole thing, but it is a very popular and rewarding practice. To do this properly, you will need a strap on harness and yes, it is ok to be a little intimidated the first time you encounter one. Oh, of course lesbian couples can also use a strap on for some penetrative action, too.

Q: Does my dildo have to look like a real penis?

A: You don’t have to get a realistic looking dildo unless you want to. Some people prefer dildos resembling or looking like a real penis, while other couples actually love to get crazy and use a sculptural dildo. There are also those who don’t feel strongly one way or the other so they don’t really care which one. What is important is to discuss it first with your partner so you can choose a dildo both of you can enjoy. Usually the person who will be on the receiving end chooses the size, while the one wearing it has the honor of choosing the color. As for the material, do your research so you know which one is right for you (silicone tends to be good) and learn how to put it on properly before you use it.

Q: Should I get a good quality strap on or skimp on the price?

A: As a general rule when it comes to sex toys, you should always look into quality because, a) you will put it inside your body and b) you want them to last a long time. If you are a beginner, try to stay away from the strapless ones as these rely on the vaginal muscles to keep the strap on in place. It is best to stick to the traditional harness strap ons.

Q: Is having strap on sex is hard?

A: While many people have this huge fantasy of using a strap on during sex, keep in mind this is not a spur of the moment decision like, ‘Oh, I’ll go down on him.’ First of all, you need to stop and put the strap on properly so it doesn’t fall out during penetration. Second, you will need lubrication. Third, you will definitely need to be adequately prepared in your sensitive area, especially if you are a man. So yes, it is worth it, but it may take you a while to get there.

Q: Speaking of lube, should I always use it?

A: YES! I cannot stress enough the importance of using the right amount of lubrication. The right amount is a lot. You will always need it. For instance, the dildo can easily slip out of the vagina so you need some extra grip there to use it properly.

Q: Should I always be the bottom or the top?

A: When it comes to using a strap on, keep in mind you can reverse roles whenever you like; you don’t always have to stick to one role. Some people love penetrating with the dildo and others love receiving it. But every once in a while it is always a good idea to switch roles just to see how it feels.

Q: Will using a strap-on feel awkward?

A: I am going to be honest right away: yes, it will be awkward. I mean, you are a woman putting on a penis for the first time in her life so you can feel a bit weird. The good news is, this sensation usually passes and you just need to get used to looking at yourself with a penis.