Please tell us a little bit about yourself – How would you describe your everyday vanilla life?
I am an actor, musician and poet.
When did you first realize you were into bondage?
When I saw it portrayed on TV when I was quite young and it triggered some subconscious association.
How you best describe yourself and why?
I am a Switch but for the most part I do enjoy being submissive the most, I think.
Do you feel that your desire for bondage is more physical or emotional?
A bit of both really.
What does BDSM mean to you: is it a lifestyle, a diversion, or something else?
A subconscious desire; there is something in my being that resonates with it. It's hard to put a finger on it. I don't know exactly why. Part of push and pull of life, the game if you like, the interplay.
Were lovers accepting of your interest in bondage?
In small doses, yes. But perhaps never quite to the degree that I have wanted them to be.
Please briefly describe your first bondage experience
I think I came across a site called Sir Darcy's dungeon and felt aroused by some pictures of a woman in hot pants with a pair of handcuffs hanging loosely off her wrists.
What was your best bondage experience?
I did rather like being ridden with a face dildo gag, when my girlfriend took me from behind one time and my first experience with a recent latex clad dominatrix.
What is the most creative safeword you have ever used?
Cinnamon
What do you feel is most important about the experience of bondage?
I think probably presence and instinct. Being present and instinctive to the needs of your partner. Perhaps also the sense of losing oneself.
What is the best advice you would give to someone just starting out with BDSM?
Take it slowly and do only what you are comfortable with, don't be reliant on it all the time. Learn to enjoy play without it but maybe incorporate the mental aspects of it into your normal sexual activity.
What is your favorite gear, toy or lingerie item from sub-shop.com and why?
I like my sensory deprivation hood. It encapsulates everything in a little cocoon and brings me back to my senses.
What is the one sensual fantasy you haven’t lived out yet that you are excited to try?
A threesome.
What’s your favorite knock-knock joke?
Knock knock
Who’s there?
Olive
Olive who?
Olive you and I don't care who knows it.
What is Eskimo ice?
Well I remember eskimo bars which were like chocolate topped ice-cream bars. That's all I know. Unless you are talking about Greenland or something?
