Meet Araya

Please tell us a little bit about yourself – How would you describe your everyday vanilla life?

In my everyday is that of working-class family man. My wife and I have been married for 17 years, and with both participate in the BDSM/Kink Lifestyle.

When did you first realize you were into bondage?

I was curious about bondage with the onset of puberty, but I really did not explore it till I was in my 20’s.

How you best describe yourself? Your choices are: Dominant, Submissive, Switch or Fuzzy Rainbow Unicorn. Please explain your choice.

My role is that of Submissive/Slave. You could say that I play the role of a Kink Butler.

Do you feel that your desire for bondage is more physical or emotional? (please elaborate)

I would say that it is equally both physical and emotional. I enjoy the physical aspect a great deal. However, the trust shared between two people in a BDSM scene is even more special.

What does BDSM mean to you: is it a lifestyle, a diversion, or something else?

I do wish I could incorporate BDSM into my life more. Kink/Bondage is very special to me. However, like a lot of us I have responsibilities and those bills don’t pay themselves.

What was your best bondage experience?

I was participating in a scene with my Mistress. While I was tied up, we somehow started to have a conversation about the love life of Captain Kirk from Star Trek. I was still tied while we were having this exchange. It was pretty funny.

What do you feel is most important about the experience of bondage?

Trust and compassion

What is the best advice you would give to someone just starting out with BDSM?

You need to be cautious and safe. I think this especially true foe women and members of the Trans community. You need to be with people you can trust and that you have good communication with. Never let anyone bully you or pressure you into doing something you don’t want to do.

What is your favorite gear, toy or lingerie item from Sub-Shop.com and why?

Would it be cheating if I said loved everything? You can never have enough toys or outfits.

What is the one sensual fantasy you haven’t lived out yet that you are excited to try?

I always wanted to be some sort Knight serving an Evil Queen.

How do you feel about the return of the 90‘sMullet Hair Style? Are you for or against and why?

The Mullet (aka Hockey Hair) needs to stay in the past. I don’t remember anyone pulling off that look.

Is there anything else you would like to share with us such as advice, thoughts or goofy knock-knock jokes? We are all ears and ball gags.

For all the male subs out there. Learn to run in heels. You never know what your Mistress may command you to do.