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Meet Skinny J

Please tell us a little bit about yourself – How would you describe your everyday vanilla life?

My everyday life is both exciting and frustrating at times. Dealing with the public definitely has it ups and downs.

When did you first realize you were into bondage?

Honestly, VERY young , like 12-13 years old. It's a looong story on how it all started but the feeling of immobility was comforting and exciting to me in a way I could not then describe or feel I could tell anyone about (this was back around 1984-85 waaaay before the Internet had an positive impact on this lifestyle) from that point on I knew that it would have to be a part of my life in some way.

How you best describe yourself and why? Your choices are: Dominant, Submissive, Switch or Fuzzy Rainbow Unicorn.

I'm a definite Submissive male. When my wife and I try to switch, I feel lost and overwhelmed on the Dominant side of it.

Do you feel that your desire for bondage is more physical or emotional? (please elaborate)

Truthfully I think it hits both equally... the physical side is the immobility imposed by either being bound with ropes, armbinders or mummified with plastic wrap.

The emotional side to me comes in with the verbal commands during a session followed by the after care and talking about the session afterwards.

What does BDSM mean to you: is it a lifestyle, a diversion, or something else?

I'd say it started out just as a way to spice things up but has blossomed into a lifestyle for us , not a full 24/7 thing (except for the chastity) but something we like doing on a full time basis.

Were lovers accepting of your interest in bondage?

I only ever shared this with my wife, and we started dating at like 20 and 19 years old, I'm 45 now, even then it took years to share this side with her, which she has accepted more than I thought she would, which is awesome. :)

Please briefly describe your first bondage experience.

Again this goes back to the looong story from when I was young. It was the result of a neighbor jokingly threatening me that if I wasn’t good I would be put in a garbage bag and thrown away. Well one day after hearing this time after time and being home alone I decided to see what it would actually be like to be in that situation. So I found a large black plastic bag lying around and climbed in, it was tight and a real squeeze to get in but I was able to get in far enough to bring the top to a close. That feeling of not being able to move, the darkness and the smell of the plastic was all an incredible feeling, I was hooked from that point on.

What was your best bondage experience?

This is kind of hard to do a PG13 answer but I'll give it a try...

I'd have to say the best experience was about 6 months ago, in our bedroom/ playspace. One wall has 2 vertical rows of eyehooks 22 inches wide and spaced 16 inches apart. I was hooded with a mouth opening only, tied off at the ankles the low eyehooks, hands behind back and tied off to eyehooks as well, we have a Posture Collar from the Sub Shop with front and side eyelets, I was tied on both sides of the collar to the wall as well. I was able to move slightly toward the wall but not any further than what the restraints would let me.

It was then I was subjected to a sexual tease and denial session with the use of a homemade PVC whipping horse my wife had positioned just right; she could push herself back into me while I was unable to move forward. That was mixed with some latex flogging from our homemade latex flogger ( I make latex clothing as a hobby) and riding crop. Added to all this was a great verbal back and forth that when all aspects were put together was a submissive's perfect session.

What is the most creative safeword you have ever used?

We keep it simple: Yellow and Red.

Yellow simply means I need a break from what's happening but stay in the moment.

Red means stop everything session over.

What do you feel is most important about the experience of bondage?

Definitely the deep connection between the two involved.

What is the best advice you would give to someone just starting out with BDSM?

If both parties are on board ... talk ... talk ... talk !!! That way you get to know what you liked, didn’t like with each session and you can build off each one.

If only one party is into it and the other either just curious or not on board at all .... don’t pressure them into it, it will only cause tension, start slow!!! Remember you've been into this for a long time, they are new to it and most likely still processing the, What , When and Why does this person like this kinda stuff.

What is your favorite gear, toy or lingerie item from sub-shop.com and why?

Hmmmmmm .... I'd have to say the posture collar and the plastic wrap. Both because of the immobility factors involved.

What is the one sensual fantasy you haven’t lived out yet that you are excited to try?

I'd have to say the most common fantasy ... A 3 some, the gender of the third party could be the fun part to decide.

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